• IzzyScissor@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    If “your man card can be revoked” then you understand that gender is performative and conditional.

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      10 months ago

      I understand that gender is made up and doesn’t matter. There is nothing girly or manly.

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      10 months ago

      For some the optionality of it is less important than the notion that if it’s performative, you can be bad at it and therefore make yourself an acceptable target for abuse, and besides that the idea that some roles can be restricted to only those with a certain set of physical characteristics is deeply ingrained in many, be that in terms gender, career, or what have you.

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        10 months ago

        Is this the most terminally online possible way of saying “gender is a social construct and I’m a gender abolitionist”?

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        10 months ago

        I’m entirely for gender abolitionism, but you really need to find some better rhetoric. “Cope and seethe, your arguments are shit” won’t work on most people

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    10 months ago

    Ok but also you aren’t nonbinary just because you’re an effeminate man. They’re different things entirely

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      10 months ago

      You can’t gatekeep being nonbinary. Not unless you’re prepared to define it explicitly, which will exclude many people - and not everyone will agree with your definition either.

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        I said just because. Not that effeminate men aren’t capable of being nonbinary, merely that it is not sufficient (or necessary for that matter). You have to like actually not identify as entirely a man.

        But it’s not my place to fight I’m very much in the binary side of transness.

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          Whose authority says it’s not sufficient? If they say they are nonbinary, they are nonbinary.

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        Telling someone whose gender doesn’t conform to the male/female binary view of gender that the term non-binary is a “shit pseudophilosophical concept” that “has no connection to reality” fucking sucks. Either you don’t recognize gender outside of the binary, or you just think these people don’t deserve a way to express and talk about their gender. Either way it’s a garbage take.

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    10 months ago

    Homophobes are cute. Me and my homies only jerk off to homophobes. Just like those old WW2 vets that invented the gay leather scene. Except now the kink is to dress up as an Ultra-American instead of a German nazi. I got a 1776 shirt literally just to fuck with.

    (One part humor, one part truth, one part bullshit. If my lame comedy makes anyone angry they aren’t living the life they should be. Treat yo self.)

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      As a leather woman I do want people to know how the community actually formed. Motorcycling was a socially acceptable hobby and served two purposes: it as a hobby has just always been useful for men dealing with ptsd who aren’t comfortable with therapy (it’s worse than therapy but it’s better than nothing and it’s not like 1948 Americans were ready to hear that John can’t process that he killed someone and that he fell in love with a soldier who died in his arms), and it served as a convenient excuse to get out of town into the middle of nowhere where nobody will see gay sadomasochism unless they came to see it.

      It’s never been a parody of the right, but it has had parodies of what was expected of them. The Nazi fetishists were different folks usually. Though we did have people wearing parodies of us uniforms

  • Deadeyegai@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Then as a man, I choose to act like a girly-Man©. See? Has Man© and that symbol makes it official. That means I can do anything <‘ronswanson meme.jpg’> Checkmate. Easy victory

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    Reactionaries have no underlying principles, they just react, violently in some cases. If you guide them through their own cobbled-together set of values and show the contradictions, they get angry and start yelling, because to them, they are their own moral arbiter and a challenge to their status quo is an enemy.

    Gender is a Social construct and getting upset at people for being outside the bimodal spectrum conservative society expects them to be is utterly pointless, stupid, and harmful.

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    10 months ago

    Don’t yield to sexists who think you have to be a certain way just because of your sex characteristics. Being a man solely means you’ve a male anatomy. Masculinity and femininity are social constructs which ever change and ever differ based on subjective perception and what not, with no actual value or benefit to anyone’s life. You are perfect the way you are and the way you act is acting like yourself, which is perfect for you, even if it’s not the standard for the average man. ^ ^

    • DeepGradientAscent@programming.dev
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      Masculinity and femininity are social constructs which ever change and ever differ based on subjective perception and what not, with no actual value or benefit to anyone’s life.

      I disagree.

      Social constructs have value and utility.

      In this case, masculine and feminine constructs have multi-billion dollar industries built around their perceived value, though their definitions are subjective and malleable. People put food on their table because of these social constructs. People make and write profound art and literature because of these social constructs.