• That_Devil_Girl@lemmy.ml
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    That property has more rights and protections than people do.

    The value of human life, in reality, is much lower than I thought it would be.

    Laws and rights are only as good as the people & mechanisms that enforce them. A piece of paper doesn’t protect you, people do.

    That people often prefer a comforting delusion over the truth, even if it hurts them in the long run.

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    Dad was not lying on top of mum to squash her.

    No matter how much 6yr old me was complaining after entering their room early one morning.

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    It’s OK to only do what you KNOW you are capable of doing. Too many people hurt themselves trying to push themselves too hard, when they just aren’t ready yet.

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    Not too late but later than I should have:

    • To seek professional mental health help
    • To understand that Bisexuality really exists. Growing up and in my teens in media and pop culture it’s seemed that you either were gay or straight, no other option.
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    When someone is abusive or hurtful to you, 90% of the time it’s not your fault. It’s that there is something wrong or something broken in them. They are malfunctioning and it’s necessary to understand that.

    The other 10%… Well, own that and fix your mistake.

    But a very large majority of the time, it’s them being broken and wrong.

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      Figuring out abusive relationships for me was hard because I knew friends with good intentions, and gave valid criticism but were absolutely brutal about it.

      Now I very rarely associate with very insecure people. They are always looking to “prove” themselves, often by putting others down.

      They can’t just accept someone’s accomplishment, they have to go “well actually you got help from so and so…” And always try to undermine your achievements. Extremely mentally exhausting people.

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      For me it’s been rough accepting that I’m absolute bpd bait. I struggle to hold boundaries and am happy to help people in need. Add in a trusting nature and yeah I’m still learning how not to get abused.

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    Probably would’ve been nice to know I was trans a few years younger but I started hormones at 20 as did a friend my age who came out at 16, so like it probably would’ve been less consequential than much.

    The importance of studying. And related, calculus and how electricity works. Both would’ve saved me a lot of money to have learned 6 months earlier.

    Also how to say no to someone trying to negotiate your boundaries and use your kindness to push you into a relationship. I should’ve walked away the second she said she wanted to negotiate my no and that she wasn’t going to give up on pursuing me. That situation fucked me up and wasn’t even the first time someone with insufficiently controlled bpd wound up pressuring me into romantic/sexual situations I wasn’t comfortable with by making it harder to say no than to give what they wanted.

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    The sunk cost fallacy is a very easy way to get stuck being miserable.

    Sometimes a drastic change might be painful at the time but will be much better for you overall.

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    The thing that comes only with age is: to not give a fuck.

    When we learn that it doesn’t matter we can all be little old people who are purple mohawk headed, wearing clashing neon adidas jumpsuit with zebra primted boas.

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      I only learned this a few weeks ago at 40 years old, now my hair is blue, both my ears are pierced and I’m a lot happier. I told my 19 year old daughter that “what will people think?” has been my mantra, now it’s “fuck 'em”

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        "at 20, you care the world what everyone thinks of you

        At 40 you learn to not care what anyone thinks of you

        At 60, you realize nobody has been thinking about you at all, the whole time."

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          If you quit worrying what people think of you, you’ll realize how seldom they do.

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      So what you’re saying is I should HODL my Bored Ape NFTs?

      /jk, broad stock & bond index funds are the way to go.

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        No no no, they’re saying buy more NTFs! They just need to be different apes so you can have a broad index of them!

        :P

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      I’m dreading the day my bad mouth hygiene will catch up to me… I know how bad it is but I still can’t get myself to brush every night.

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        If you’re like me, then some time in your thirties. I didn’t brush from early teens through until then - I had several abcesses and needed seven teeth removed, including my top fronts. Turns out I had undiagnosed autism, depression and low self image. Now I do brush, and it’s just a case of forcing myself to adapt to a routine. Even keeping some flouride mouthwash handy for a quick swill every now and then helps a bit. Hope you find your way.

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        I was like you, the transition was not easy, but what helped me was to brush my teeth when I already went to the bathroom to pee. This meant that I rarely brush my teeth at the same time. But I do it every night now. This also helped me reduce my snacking after 20:00. Because I didn’t want to snack after brushing my teeth. I convinced myself I was going to do this and ever since I only missed 2 nights. What also helped is using a tracking app where I could check it to “gameify” it.

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    No matter how hard you try, how loud you cry, some people will never change.

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    • Any work or study done during an all-nighter is a waste.

    • If you meet someone and all they do is talk about themselves, they won’t be a good friend.

    • Nobody really cares how you look or what you wear. And anyone who does has bigger issues they would rather not deal with.