Sorry for the weird question, don’t know how else to word it. Basically I’m job hunting and I’m realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.
I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion – I’m agnostic – but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven’t worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they’re ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I’ve applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.
Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I’m breaking down over it. It’s so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don’t think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.
My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.
Skirts are fairly common formalwear, at least for women. Are you a man? If not, I think any office job, receptionist job, etc, would be fine with you wearing a skirt. I imagine it’d only be some forms of manual labour where a skirt would get in the way.
Why would a bank make you not wear a skirt?
I don’t understand what religion has to do with wearing a dress or skirt at a bank job. ?
religious dress code exemption
What religion requires people to wear dresses ?
I’ve never worked for an office that banned skirts or dresses.
Though one banned shorts after Labor Day.
I thought that was pointless.
Some people are large and sweaty. If they want to wear shorts in December. Why not?. Doesn’t affect anyone else.
I hate stupid rules for stupid reasons.
How can I wear a skirt at work
Wear skirt. Go to work.
I don’t know what I’m missing here. Unless there’s a safety reason to the job or a mandatory uniform, why would anyone care? Maybe you’re in a particularly repressive country and I don’t understand the nature of the problem, or why religion comes into it.
Likely, since you didn’t mention it, you don’t want your gender to be an issue. That’s not the world we live in. If you present as male and want to wear a skirt, the only possible option at bigger corporations is a kilt, but then you’ll need to lean into being “Scottish”. You might find more acceptance at a small business, even a smaller bank, perhaps, depending on where you are.
If you present as female, then I don’t know what to say, I’ve never heard of a job that requires trousers for women apart from for safety reasons.
There is no technical reason a man can’t wear a skirt. The society you live in may “frown” upon it. But that’s a different issue to address entirely
If it’s an office job i doubt there will be a pants requirement. Just having clothes on …
if you’re leaving out a part of being an AMAB or a man or a trans woman who is hiding, there’s many traditional clothes in the world that can satisfy that, most common is probably the arab thoub
Are you a lady? I work in an office at a sports company (so sporty casual is common) and there are several women here who wear dresses and skirts not pants, several more who switch back & forth. Not me - pants feel much more secure to me - but it’s nothing anyone really notices.
A man wearing skirts we would notice for awhile, not care but notice; if you are customer facing then you might encounter that surprise over and over, if not, I don’t think it will be a big deal.
have you tried different fabrics or fineness? some of them don’t feel like you’re wearing anything at all.
someone gifted me silk pants a while ago and that’s when i finally understood flanders. lol
Maybe in your region they are not as open minded as other places and you need to be a pioneer, my only tip is get references of other people pionering, take as much courage as you can and fight for your rights!
Even a toga is an option. It’s not “normal” most places, but if you wear reasonably covering clothing and get your work done anyone worth working for won’t really care.
