I had to deal with some guy at work trying to do some tiktok video and including me in it so I could complement his side gig or some shit (and likely only including me because women get views). And if I complain too much about being included in their grift everyone will shit on me for being a karen or for not helping him with it. Jesus fucking christ, I hate people that try to constantly plaster their face and name on everything to make money. Fuck youtubers, fuck tiktok, fuck ads, stop stealing peoples work for a quick buck ‘by doing commentary’, leave me the fuck alone
Late stage capitalism. That’s it.
No. I hate the fact that the world has forced people to need to do so.
I don’t see why you should put your face in his video if he isn’t sharing the money. It sounds like he wants free labor to me.
i would normally tell him to fuck off but the chief leeches were there and wanted me to. whats worse is he has a somewhat large amount of followers and the chief leeches like him being there because of exposure.
Jesus what kind of hellscape of a job do you have where you’re being forced into viral marketing for something that is unrelated to your company?!
i work in a software security department at a large corporation. I HATE IT HERE.
Why would software security need (or even want) “exposure?”
the corporation has a large financial wing, why they think im a good target to include in some idiots tiktok video is your guess. i dont speak linkedin or tiktok
They probably see it as “woman in tech is rare, we show we have one”
They like this until he accidentally leaks something classified like the idiots that would upload their “Day in the life of” videos typing in pincodes and passwords and the wrong person sees it or goes back to see it an old video. Some horrible long term thinking for a software security team to allow
“You know what my side hustle ad needs? A GIRL”
“Hey, I think a girl works for me. Let’s just use her.”
“Great thanks bro!”
Shit like this makes me want to become a terrorist. I wont, but I’m starting to get why other people do.
At a random time, when nothing is happening, hand him a “paid talent release form”.
If you look up “talent release form” it’s what allows a creator to use materials with another person. As it stands now, he asked you to participate but did not have you sign a release (with no fee), so you own partial rights to income from that video.
Say to him: “Since you are a pretty big creator I assume you’re familiar with releases. I grabbed a standard one to give you rights to my previously included videos, and here’s another for any future videos including me for a 50% share. I’ll sign them after you approve and sign unless you have a standard set you would like to use”
This makes it a business transaction, vs a “leave me alone”. He won’t want to figure out how to pay you, so he’ll probably stop.
I do a lot of open source contribution on my spare time because I think it’s fun and I like to contribute to software that is open and free for anyone to use. I have several friends and co-workers that think I’m stupid for not only work on projects that pays me.
I’m happy as long as I get to write code for fun and also contribute to the world. That is it’s own reward.
that’s what living in a capitalist society looks like.
Well in this case it probably isn’t money he is after, but attention and fame. That said, just tell him you had a past “incident” you don’t like to talk about, but that your image shouldn’t be on anything that might give away your current location. Lol.
just tell him you had a past “incident” you don’t like to talk about, but that your image shouldn’t be on anything that might give away your current location.
I appreciate that you are trying to help here, but I’d advise against that. This is a person who shows little respect for others’ privacy or feelings. Telling them a lie like this could easily result in them trying to find out what this “past incident” was, telling other people OP has some past trauma and making them even more uncomfortable.
It should be way more simple: no means no, and you’re not entitled to have other people play a part in your videos.
Well of course it should be simpler, the employer should put a stop to it without even requiring a complaint. Aside from it being the right thing to do, allowing it opens them to all sorts of liability. So obviously the employer isn’t very bright. The rest was part joke, and part a way to possibly play nice and still get what she wanted. Only someone who knows him would know if it would work or make things worse. So I could have put your milage may vary, but I thought that was kind of obvious.
Just tell him no, tell him you don’t want to be on his social media.
The job market sucks and it’s only getting worse. A full-time job doesn’t provide the same standard of living it did for previous generations. I don’t like how there’s so much pressure to have a side hustle that makes money versus just having a hobby you enjoy, but for some people that’s their only option. But I don’t hate them, I hate the system.
That being said, it wasn’t cool for him to include you in his video. You have every right to push back and avoid this in the future.
I do indeed hate living under capitalism
I absolutely hate it. I just want to BE but that is impossible because we’ve turned modern life into an insufferable game.
I want to work a reasonable amount, and have enough time and money to create for my own pleasure if I so choose. I don’t even mind content creation in theory, I see it no different from writing or doing art. It’s the constant pursuit of more, more, more, both status and money, that gets to me. I want freedom, security, and comfort.
Yeah I mean if that’s what people enjoy I’m not going to yuck anyone’s yum (to a point), as long as they are not pestering people around them. Unfortunately that’s what gets clicks a lot of times, so you have these people creating these situations, harassing people at home and in foreign countries, creating all this fake drama between themselves. Yes I just wish more people would be happy with what they have and appreciate the things and people around them more (myself included.) All the flaunting and celeb worship is gross. Also the whole grind mindset, that’s great if you enjoy it but I certainly don’t have that energy and when people belittle other people for being lazy or whatever, it’s not even like that, I work very hard when I need to.
if it’s any consolation, this bubble with burst soon and most of these types will be too distressed working an actual job to bother chasing the rat-race
It does suck. Watching all my highschool friends slowly lose the light in their eyes as the economy tightened its grip, becoming all more desperate just for basic necessities. The only way any of us can fix this is by making sure no one is run ragged by the fear of this fake ass scarcity.
At least you have empathy. My family deride me for struggling with affording housing my whole adult life. At least I dont have to see them more then a couple times a year. Love those douchebags.
It’s not you, I can tell you that. I won’t lie I feel that empathy because I was simply exposed to the horrors of capitalism before they were, my father losing his job, my family losing their house and having to work in a factory as a child. I can’t blame them for the conditions we’re all in.
This really just goes to show how strapped everyone is. If all you ever think about is needing to make more money, you’re struggling.
If my ‘struggling’ you mean ‘i want to be wealthy but i constantly overspend’.
nobody doing social media posts is in poverty.
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I dislike it too. I’m not surprised at all. I’m not the brightest but the one thing I’ll lay claim to is having seen this train wreck the whole way. Our generations were raised to be hyper-individualist neoliberals. It’s everyone for themselves and we’re all worse off for it. We’re crabs in a bucket.
I didn’t have those words to conceptualize it as a kid but I saw it in the way we’ve been pit against each other since the beginning. It’s an unsustainable model. I’m not surprised the state of the world, especially the economy today.
What I don’t get is if everyone is so smart then why am I the only one that seems to be seeing it. Operative word being “seems”. I know a lot of other people see it too. As evidenced by whole posts like this.
But as a collective. We’re supposed to be the most educated and most open minded generations ever (in terms of breadth of knowledge, not political leaning). Yet we seem to be regressing to worse off states of being than ever. What the hell is even that about?
No, I don’t buy into blaming the “boomers”. They voted for what they wanted collectively. Collectively. Everyone accuses them of being selfish. If anything our generations are just as selfish. I personally think we’re more.
I don’t buy into blaming the top 0.01% either. They are a product of our collective obsession with money and materialism. I do blame much of the top two-digit percentages. I really don’t care if you’re a multi-milionaire or soon to be worlds first trillionaire. You’re all running the same race. Just with different scores. A butterfly flapping its wings could have just as well re-arranged those musical chairs to put anyone at the top.
The younger generations have the voting power now. But there’s always excuses designed to dodge the truth. Whatever we’re upset with about the world today is our own responsibility now. The truth is it sucks because too many of us are making it suck.
it really does start young…it dawned on me recently that this was the whole point to musical chairs, and a number of other childhood “games” pushed onto us at school in bumfuck nowhere. there are so many of these shitass towns in the middle of nowhere, whose whole existence is basically just the local real estate robber barons trying to get one of their kids to “make it” so they can funnel a bunch of $ back into their fief.
and the backbone of all of it is exploiting a deliberately under-educated workforce…american capitalism is fucking disgusting.
i think the thing that pisses me off most is how long it took me to get around to the fact that everybody knows this, and just…either accepts their place or doesn’t care because the system benefits them.
i’m autistic…until this realization clicked for me i was kind of running around in dismay wondering why noone seemed to care everything was collapsing…but this too is just another part of the plan, it’s called “boom and bust investing/disaster capitalism”
