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    13 days ago

    me dying and my pets experiencing a slow and excruciating death by dehydration and starvation; meowing and barking the entire time for help while everyone ignores the nuisance until it finally stops for good.

    i never setup automatic rent payments in the hopes that the eviction process will happen soon enough so at least it get someone’s attention before they pass so terribly.

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      You know some people may call you crazy for that but in the grand scheme of things that is pretty smart what you do with the payments, and if that’s the thing that scares you and thats your way to get a piece of mind then good on you.

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        i hear odd more often than crazy because my neurodivergence makes human relationships difficult but people will engage since i’m on the part of the spectrum that makes me seem outwardly “normal”; so my pets are my entire social circle and the most important thing in my life. it doesn’t matter to me if people think me crazy for it because i know i literally will go crazy without my pets.

        i’m also pretty sure that relying on this almost dystopian rental market to continue dystopifying is not a good idea given multitudes of caveats in each jurisdiction; but i’m equally sure that owning a home would guarantee the death sentence i described for my pets.

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          Not odd or crazy, but that being said do you have anyone you could contact regularly? If something bad was to happen and you didn’t contact them then that could trigger them to come round to check on you.

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            i think that my family would start wondering why they hadn’t heard from me in about 6-9 months at the soonest since that’s how frequent our contact usually is.

            besides my therapists; i think that my best bet for something like you’ve described would be with the acquaintances i frequently make entirely thanks to watching and mimicking my well loved, bubbly, extroverted, social butterfly of a mother (RIP). however the life spans of those relationships can be measured in months and there’s a continuously rotating cast; and i suspect that me trying to setup something like that with an acquaintance would only make those relationships end faster.

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              I’m sorry, I hope everything is all good for you, the only other thing I could suggest is like a life line service that check in on you every few weeks.

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                thank you, but don’t have sympathy for me: i’m think i’m doing decently well since my field of work is extremely lucrative and i’m high functioning enough to have extremely well paying jobs atleast half of the time and the part of the spectrum i occupy makes me seem “normal” to most, so it’s possible to socialize; at least for good while; with other people despite it being exhausting most of the time.

                someone else in this post suggested a smartwatch setup to contact emergency services automatically and i’m going to do it.

                i’m really loving the lemmyverse right now!

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                  Great! I hope you find a watch you like, Garmin watches can be quite good if you are looking for any suggestions. That being said I wish you all the best!

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      I once had a medical emergency when home alone, I was making a sandwich and was cutting ham when the knife slipped and nearly cut the end of my finger off. Luckily I had my phone and was able to call for some help.

      Best thing to do imo is have your phone nearby you when home alone.

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    I can’t believe no one said the things under the bed, or the things looking in through the window. On the rare occasion that I’m home alone I still jump several feet to get into bed. Yes I’m too old for this but it’s the truth.

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      I bet you turn the lights off and take 3 steps at a time up the stairs to stop the shadow person from catching you. /s

      Also someone looking in the window??

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        I mean, there’s not anyone outside the window. But the idea that something could be out there without my knowing? It’s a feeling of not being secure and makes me jumpy.

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    That I’ll get food lodged in my throat and my survival will be determined by how well I can thrust myself onto the back side of a chair before I pass out. A tough ask when you’re short.

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      Well if shortness is the issue then try propping a chair against the wall so it’s tipped or tipping it in general so the top is closer to your stomach. Alternatively use the table.

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    Real answer, in college the apartment I was living in was broken into by a neighbor and attacked my roommate. When I heard noise coming from his room I went to go check on him and the attacker turned on me and started to attack me. My injuries were far less severe from my roommate’s. Ever since then I can’t fall asleep unless I check all the doors to make sure they are locked even if I know it’s locked I’ll double check it before laying down for the night. At times when I’m alone in the house I can still get to sleep but it’s a restless sleep because of how uneasy I feel about being alone in a house at night. That shit sucks to never feel fully safe in your own home.

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      Ahhh shoot, I’m sorry you had to deal with that, you know maybe leaving a light on at night or buying something like a doorbell cam. Might help.

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        I do have those things and wish I could tell you that they do help. Fact is the feeling really doesn’t help or go away. The only thing that helps is not being home alone at night.

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          Yeah I get you, I suppose that every little thing helps to at least improve the situation.

          I think the main thing is that when we are home alone I suppose our alertness is higher which might make us paranoid.

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    All the biking I’m not doing. If no one is home, my obligations are fewer so I should go for a bike ride.

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    I’m alone so infrequently I usually enjoy it. But I have anxiety so if I’m having a panic attack, all worries are on the table and mostly center around “but what if my husband or sister just never come back???”