I’m having a shit start to my week already. It feels like no one cares and whenever I try to reach out I’m just put off. Tried to talk to my teacher but he just reccommended me to my counselor, who is out of office. Tried to talk to a hotline but my text wouldn’t go through because my signal was shit. Tried to make a forum on reddit but post gets taken down.
Whenever I feel like this I just hole myself up in the bathroom. In 6th grade I would go to the bathroom in Spanish class to just cry, but it got to the point where the girls would make fun of me for using it often so I stopped going in that class.
Sorry for venting. The question is do you guys have a safe spot you hide in when you feel down? And if so where? Because bathrooms aren’t good for me
Anywhere my pets are. Without my dog I wouldnt have made it through college. The off leash dog park was our stress free zone.
Sorry things feel overwhelming right now. Especially when you’re doing the right thing, reaching out. You got this.
I have a closet in my home office. On the floor of it is a sleeping mat and soft blanket as the base, and I have a weighted blanket on top. When I start getting overwhelmed (or just need a quick mid-day nap) I’ll go in there, close the door, and lie down for a bit. It’s isolated and quiet.
When my cat hears that door open she will rush to be included, and will cuddle with me.
I have a couple pear trees in my back yard that I planted for my son when we was a baby. When my wife and I had a miscarriage on our 2nd and 3rd try we burried what we could with the pear trees, when out best cat died we burried him there, when my lizard that I’ve had for 12 years and went through hell with me died we burried her there, when my grandma died I burried some of her trinkets there.
I don’t mow much back there and let the grass grow, just keeping the base of the trees clean. Sometimes I like to go sit in that overgrown grass under the trees. It feels safe and comforting, the bugs keep me company, one time I had a garden snake sliver over my shoes and just sit there for a while.
Blanket+dog+floor of small closet.
Have you tried a physical outlet for these emotions? Hit the gym, or put on some headphones and go for a long run. Running can be very meditative and you can do it pretty much anywhere.
Hey there, my personal sanctuary is long decadent bubble baths as a way to just focus on myself. But if bathrooms aren’t safe for you, then maybe head to your local library? Most tend to have study rooms you can reserve if you just want some solitude.
Sending you warm helping vibes my friend! ♥ 💕
You might try finding a classroom or area that isn’t being used on a consistent basis. So maybe the band practice area or an arts/crafts class or library or some place, you may want to check with a teacher beforehand. It can be hard with school though, depending on how locked down they have you. For myself personally when I was in school 20+ years ago, I was able to retreat into myself with headphones and music, I was able to block everyone around me out no matter where I was at. Sometimes you can even just walk the halls, walking by itself has been my go-to therapy methods, just walk away and get a change of scenery for awhile. Everyone needs mental health breaks if things are getting overwhelming.
Also, remember that school essentially stops mattering after you get out. Yes, it’s important to graduate and get a diploma, but you’re likely to rarely see those same people ever again after you graduate. I’m 43 and I still have days like that where it feels like no one cares, and I’ve got a partner with kids, it’s tough sometimes.
My single-player Minecraft skyblock world. Nothing exists there except what I permit.
Sometimes I wish it was available at work.
I go sit in my car. Can you ask your teacher for a pass to the library? If the library doesn’t work, go to the school nurse. Tell them you’re struggling and you need a quiet place to be alone for s few minutes and regroup.
You make think that you are in the safe spot, but the safe spot is in you. Be at peace with yourself, and the only then can you be at peace with all that is around you.
I used to make the rounds in the largest libraries around me. I’d find the coziest spot to hide in. At Uni I’d find a good study cubby and hide there. Napping also helps with a nice jacket on.
Minecraft works for me. It’s been a Minecraft week.
There’s no place in reality that I can feel safe or comfortable. Anywhere that there is any chance of a human being perceiving me or me perceiving another human being is not a place that I can feel comfortable in. The only refuge that I can find is in books and video games.
No.
