So, I wanna talk about Marvels Civil War, not the movie but the comic it was based on. Some losers with powers decide the easy way to go big time is to make a superhero reality show. TL:DR Bad choices were made and they nuke an elementary school.

Anyways, this is what sets off a big moral panic and suddenly we gotta have the secret identity of everyone powers in a big ole “ultra secure” database. The majority of heroes go along with it, because they aren’t the bad guys right!? Iron Man is a real dick and mandates that if you aren’t following the law, then by definition you are a bad guy. They beat up “villains” for less! But Captain America refuses because “What happens when the bag guys hack it? Doctor Doom will be in that thing before the end of the week.” So everyone beats everyone else up, Cap dies but comic books so he gets better.

I forget why I brought this up. Oh yeah! Tony Stark is a piece of shit.

It’s cold comfort knowing that everything I was upset about as a teenager was exactly as bad as I predicated.

Medical transition is a whole separate hemisphere of trans life. Despite what most media depictions imply, the majority of trans folk never pursue surgery. Trans folk have always existed, long before medical options were possible. It’s even more recent for them being wildly available. I think most of the community would agree that transition begins when you decide to start pursuing something else, not necessarily after egg crack/coming out/hormones/surgery.

He refused with disgust while counter questioning - “Would that make me more trans?”

Well… good! I am super happy for him! It would be far worse if he felt he had get surgery since that means he’d been suffering.

Honestly this isn’t unusual. I myself did only social transition before deciding ~6 months later to start HRT. Fundamentally he is on a super healthy wave length. We can’t always control how the world perceives us, but so long as you know yourself and are supported by the people who matter, then everything else is just noise.

Transition is all about finding a better way to exist, if he doesn’t feel the need to do any sort of physical changes, that is great! If he changes his mind someday, also great! That day never comes? Still great! The reality of transition is baby steps into something new, then stopping to reflect on if that helped. Him coming out to you sounds like one of those steps. Up to him to decide the one after that. There truly is no wrong answer.

Since you already talking about medical transition, I think you should make it clear that if he does decide to do that, you’ll support him. And then never bring it up again. He knows its an option but you don’t want him to feel like it is an expectation. It’s not for everybody and surgery itself is in no way a reflection of “how trans you are”. We’re all different.

If you were attracted to them pre transition and post that by definition makes you bisexual or pansexual. I will also echo everyone else saying that these labels don’t mean much and could easily become a cage. Their fundamentally just words you use to help others understand, not something you need to pin down and then execute. Let your heart and relationship become whatever feels right, and only THEN use words to describe it to others.

More important than labels is being supportive, careful and judgment free for your partner. Speaking as a trans woman who started transition during a long term relationship. Any confusion and concerns you may have, I assure you are exponentially larger for him. It’s okay if this is no longer the relationship you signed up for, but please for the love of life, don’t berate, challange or express disgust toward him. This is a very vulnerable time and speaking carelessly will cause lasting harm. My ex and I went to pride parades, but when I came out suddenly I was a disgusting pervert. Again it’s okay to leave if being with him no longer sparks joy, but don’t scorch the earth on the wya out.

The one true god.

Omg! God told me I would see this post! Praise him!

Best GB since the original. Blows #2 or any of the other modern ones out of the water by a long shot.

Of all the animals, I would rate Warthogs as one of the most flightless. Odd choice.

Mise en place directly translates to having a password manager.

Instead of resetting your passwords every time because it’s impossible to remember all your logins (and exhausting to try) just have them in one place instead of scrambling each time.

Loftus always does good stuff. My fave is her Lolita podcast which breaks down the history of its public perception. The book is a monster attack story, but told from the viewport of the monster. Using flowery language talking to a jury is explaining how it’s not that bad, and he eventually rots in prison. The self serving lies are both obvious and numerous .

But some-fucking-how most people think it’s a problematic star crossed lovers, romeo and juilet, age is just a number, forbidden romance BS. Multiple movies and stage have distorted the book into the exact thing the author was mocking.

Sorry. Random rant. But goddamn does Jamie do good work.

Oh yeah, I picked out all the gifts for my wifes family. All of our gifts for everyone really. But that’s just our dynamic, she works out of the house and I deal with everything inside the home. The presents are from us as a unit, the details don’t matter.

That it’s fine to harm another so long as you enjoy it’s flesh and muscle.

Don’t pick me. This is just inspiration to do like my… 5th-ish playthrough. Fantastic game and a real treat for any new farmers!

But, the real question is… when ya gonna haunt them chocolates ape!!!

Nothing good happens there.

That’s a peak western chauvinist take right there. My wife and I are lowkey planning a trip to Thailand to explore the food, suppose that makes us some sort of creeps?

This whole concept of some places being judge worthy is racist as hell.

Okay, so I’m a queer woman who is gonna do her best to level wit you. The problem is that you’re trying to come up with a sexuality based on exclusion, which inherently is going to be bigoted.

If you’re a straight man, you’re attracted to women. But if you were to say “only white women tho” then it’s clearly coming from a racialized place, even if you insist that you’re not racist, your limitations on who you are willing to consider a dateable woman says other wise. Conversely, if you were a white man who says “only asian women tho”, that’s again coming from a racialized and fetishized place. Even if it’s subconscious and unrealized bias that makes sense in your head, the context of fetishized communities is still racism.

So on the same note, it’s hypocritical to say “trans women are women” while categorically insisting that you would never date one. Does this include Trans women who have bottom surgery and pass as cis? If so, then visual attraction isn’t the only factor. If not, then clearly “super straight” has some caveats making the term meaningless.

Anytime you’re trying to define “everyone but X”, you’re inherently embracing a bigoted stance. Does this mean you’re required to date any and all women who ask you out? No, of course not. But to defining an entire category undateable speaks to bias. Lesbian women are attracted to women instead of attracted to “not men”, gay men are attracted to men instead of “not women”. To say categorical trans folk do not apply there is by definition trans exclusionary. On a case by case basis, a trans person can be rejected without bias, but categorically doesn’t just imply bias, but is such.

Racism used to be a problem until Lincoln and MLK fixed it.

Well at least you had one good experience! If they are/were a decent restaurant then sure, makes sense. But to me it seemed like a spectacl restaurant akin to Rainforest Cafe, just something to look at with mediocre food.

But different strokes for different folks. Whatevs. ♥️

When I was 12ish I was taken there by my father to celebrate an extremely awkward family friends 18th birthday. I’ll never understand the appeal of lofi strip clubs, or well, strip clubs at all really?

Maybe I am just too ace for it, but the whole thing just feels uncomfortable and weird at best. Exploitative and depressing at worst.

Everyone I know is nihilistic and numb. We know.

Libby is an absolute blessing.