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    7 months ago

    Man, I thought Lemmy was supposed to be better than Reddit. These comments are proving me wrong.

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      Most of the negative comments are from Lemmy.world users, which is the instance that recieves the bulk of the Reddit crowd before the users find a more fitting instance.

      Lemmy.world tends to attract people from Reddit that are too ideological to stay, but want the same thing as Reddit without the enshittification, so they go to the largest generalist instance first. Over time, some leave for more specialized instances, like Beehaw, Lemmy.ml, programming.dev, or blahaj.zone, so that leaves .world usually with newer accounts, or people who just want Reddit 2 before it went to shit.

      Not saying everyone from .world is bad, of course not, but what drives users to .world over more niche instances is usually coming straight from Reddit.

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        I joined Lemmy.ml because it looked like the largest generalist instance plus apparently ran by Lemmy developers. Here you list it as a specialist one. Well, I couldn’t have known at the time. :D

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          It’s a bit of both! It’s an older instance, but it is focused on FOSS and Privacy. It isn’t extremely specialized, of course, but it is not a pure generalist instance either.

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      I just don’t find obese women attractive, a little 胖乎乎的婴儿肥 is one thing, but not a serious health condition.

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        We all have our own attractions, that’s fine. However, people don’t have to meet our standards of beauty to exist and take part in society.

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          Okay, but let’s stop the creeping cultural psychosis and acknowledge it as a massive health crisis that some people have a fetish for.

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            Oh yeah, absolutely. I’m not saying that obesity is good, but I also don’t think we can judge people for it. If someone is learning how to love themselves, who are we to stand in their way for it?

            Maybe they need that self love to push them forward and lose that weight? Maybe not. Regardless I don’t think telling people how they should or shouldn’t dress will bring anyone any sort of good.

            It’s that old saying “if you don’t have anything good to say, perhaps don’t say anything at all.”

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            So is posting on lemmy every hour. But you don’t see people waving it in other’s face, because it is none of your business.

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      Yeah it’s a bummer. When I left twitter for mastodon there was a full 180° from the attitudes people had. Unfortunately it seems that the outrage/negativity algorithm has trained Redditors too well to break those bad habits.

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        It’s usually the ones coming straight from Reddit into Lemmy.world, if you go to a less generalist instance it’s usually a lot better.

        .world is just Reddit 2, in terms of culture.

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      I thought the snowflakes stayed on reddit, but apparently me saying “Copium in comic” is too offensive for moderators.

      ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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      “body type” has always been a general term to express the entire shape, size and proportions of a person, including excess weight and obesity.

      When I was obese I couldn’t pull off crop tops because of my body size, it was incredibly unflattering, and now that I’m a healthy weight I still can’t pull off crop tops because of my body proportions, I have a short torso.

      Body type encompasses both scenarios, so it’s often thought of as a polite way to tell someone something is unflattering without singling out specific “flaws” in their body.

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        That makes a bit more sense. I was initially reminded of the various pseudo-scientific attempts to classify variations in human body shapes, which usually don’t factor in great variations in body fat content. The way it’s used in the image made me think this was an attempt to frame an unhealthy lifestyle as something inherent that can’t be changed.

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    I feel like these clothes are the prefect match for the body type on the right. There are many clothes that might not fit the person the the right (also many wouldn’t fit the person on the left), but the ones in the comics are not these clothes.

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    I’ve been in so many wholesome communities, I initially thought the first panel was a thinly veiled pickup line.

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    The girl on the right is fucking hot. The comic is for girls that do not look like her but think they do 😂

    I think all women are beautiful but if you can’t live up to these strict standards, it’s not the end of the world.

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    Can any ladies comment, are girls ever actually this bitchy to each other? This has to be a bit of hyperbole right?

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        ooh yeah I am a woman and thankfully I don’t drink alcohol ever, and if I did I could see how my mouth would get very ascerbic. I have so many bitter, cutting, scathing opinions about people, and I learn to keep them to myself, but if I ever had alcohol, I’m pretty sure I would let it all go and probably would have been murdered in a bar a long time ago

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      Usually, they say it, but not directly to you. The attacking woman will tell another person in the group, and that person will usually tell the target woman what was said by the first woman just “because I thought you should know.” Very, very rarely is it said directly.

      I also have seen a lot of people pull the move of talking too loud about things they hate about the target woman on purpose so that the target woman hears it, but can’t really confont the attacking woman because she “should mind her own business.”

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      From what I hear it’s usually more about back-handed compliments than outright insults, like “wow, you must have a lot of confidence in yourself to wear that, go you!”

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    I would have been that boyfriend. I always saw women like the right as more attractive and sexual than women like the left. It would infuriate a couple of my friends because I was a pretty boy who had the attention of women they found more appropriate, but I could never get them to understand that those women were like background extras to me in dating terms. It’s not even something I willfully do, it just feels natural and correct to want a bbw vixen.