It’s like being subscribed to a toddler in the “why” phase.
It’s like being subscribed to a toddler in the “why” phase.
Nah. It starts out like THUD! THUD! and then slowly after a couple minutes of warming up, that goes all muffled and it becomes that familiar high-pitched ringing noise.
Ha, I have a friend called Rani
I like to say, “Stastically you’re much more likely to die in a car accident on the way to the beach than be attacked by a shark once there.”
So people are less afraid of sharks and more afraid of each other, like it should be.
Sorry. It’s easy for me to say, “Be more positive!” when my feet have never been in your shoes. Sorry if it seemed patronising in any way—its good advice, I’m just bad with choice of words a lot of the time. You seemed to understand my point, though. Perhaps a good (paraphrased) analogy is one I learned in Uganda; don’t use the poisoned well lest it poisons you, lest you poison those that don’t use the well.
And I’d like to remind you that you can do, literally, whatever you want at any time. The only considerations are consequences. You can literally murder the next person you see, in the same way you can just walk off and start your journey. One has consequences of prison lol, but the other… well, who knows?
This mindset has saved my life in hard times. Where everything felt awful. Walking away from it seemed so much more obvious than staying. What’s the worst that could happen? I’m happier? Haha. Yep. Time to just start walking. No plan, no direction, just knowing “I can not do this any more and I won’t be here any more.”
You’ll be surprised how rapidly thing start becoming good when you leave the bad. Don’t doubt yourself. Don’t be in a rut. You’ll never live otherwise.
Oh, I know. And I’m currently setting up audits on qualifications and alignment to our nation’s higher education standards…at a research university.
I’ve already had industry colleagues remind me of that time a major university here had a big grant puller non-chalantly say, “I never actually completed my PhD” thinking it was just gonna go down totally fine because of how much his reputation pulled research money in over the years.
Clearly a very smart human that contributed a lot, but that’s not how academia works and obviously an atomic bomb went off with fiends lined up for the scraps while the CFO weeps.
This is my big fear. If I stumble across something like this, I’m quitting for something less stressful like pest control, test piloting, or child care.
My Indian friends tell me that Indian people are the most racist people in the world, to other Indians. That’s the biggest problem and why they left. You’re clearly a part of that. A traditional caste system and the usual socioeconomical issues of a large population obviously won’t help. These seem to be the cores of your issues. It’s not your fault, but you shouldn’t participate in that bullshit by saying such things and having such a defeated mindset.
You need to travel. You need to leave.
After you travel, you can self-assess under a more experienced and open perspective. You will likely not want to return, but you will not be hitting the world so jaded and focused on competitive success within society. You will relax, you will get options, you will settle into a comfortable life and in a few years you will complain about the mediocrity of being middle-class instead.
“But I can’t travel.”
Yes you can. You have plenty of skillsets that will earn you more money per hour elsewhere. All the while building up friendships, networks, and experiences. Your only issue is visas which you co-ordinate as you go. For now, much of the western world is very open to Asian immigrants and you’d be foolish to not jump on it while it’s still an option. Target the richer nations with low unemployment rates and you’ll find secure work.
Your main issue will be later when domestic family want part of what you’ve gained. That’s up to you. I have a friend that I found out was giving more than half his income back home because $60K AUD seems huge to people not paying $550 a week in rent. And I’ve also got a friend that, after her father died, threw her middle fingers to family and India vowing to never return.
Your situation is harder to endure than just leaving. But the amount of blame and hate you put on your circumstances makes me wonder if you can even realise that.
But as a white guy with 13 friends from Nepal, India, and Bangladesh, I’d like to think my advice isn’t entirely disregardable, as it’s indirectly from them.
Edit: Ah shit, I forgot that apart from visas your only other issue will be racism. It really depends on the industry and nation, but obviously there will be those anti-immigration even though they don’t realise immigration Is saving their fucking livelihood. Plus, if you talk about India and Indians the way you did In your post, you’ll fit right in with them lol—thats not a good thing long-term, but I guess an odd uptick (???)
Point is, whoever you are, you were born and will die. Go find a place in the world that you’re not miserable in. That’s your current meaning in life.
At least they showed up. Or was this after the fourth last-minute and/or late-minute reschedule?
“Sorry. I was busy trying to find research grants so I could dodge teaching activities for the semester.”
Meanwhile, me assembling IKEA furniture…
Everyone overlooking the rigorous maintenance required on the trolley. There will need to be several seamless swap outs each day with cleaning and engineering crews to keep the trolley, tracks, and grounds around running in a fulfilling order. And probably some ovens.
Ah, yes. The Repost Police. A group of individuals out to inform everyone that they’re proud of spending far too much time on socials, even though no one cares to know.
may have weighed roughly 15 tonnes instead of 8.8, and measured 15 metres instead of 12.
I find that very hard to believe for a bipedal land animal. Hit age 3 and your knees and hips are just done.
“Old as balls”???
That makes zero sense lol. Bravado, ego, pressure, these are the topics balls are in context with, not age.
Python. Been wanting to learn it for years but all mental capacity I have toward such stuff is drained by work. The whole situation is ironic.
Especially.
Worst time of year for dog shelters. COVID puppies was such a bad time.
I had an ensuite in my campus share house. Paid $20 more a week. The deal was the other two can use my shower in emergencies, because that $20 more meant I could contribute to the house noodles and beer as much.
Yeah, I use it almost exclusively. Better for the environment, super useful, and always high quality. It’s like the paragon of cooking oils. What it doesn’t do well, it still does at a 7/10. It’s also a lot easier only having to remember the properties of one oil.
Yeah that blew his mind. Then he got invited to game dev conferences and said along the lines of, “It felt weird being there and introducing myself to actual game developers.”
My friend made Shower With Your Dad Simulator 2015. He explained it to me and I was like, “who tf showered with their dad growing up!?” Surprisingly the friend group was split in half on that one and it was common.
Anyway, I told him I’d grab it just have it appear in my library, but it’s half fun. I remember unlocking the Inglorious Bathdads mode, thinking he was genius.
Not to alarm anyone, but unless you’re doing the 100m in around 11s or less, current large crocodiles are still faster than you. But if you’re fit enough to keep the speed going, you should outlast them over short enough distance.
And if you can’t do any of that, well you’ll have to run lateral to it and hope your agility out maneouvers them.