I think I’m on my way to happiness.
I finally left my abusive wife this week. It was really scary, and she keeps sending me threats (to take me for child support and ruin my life) but I was able to get ahold if a crisis center for abused people, thankfully they have support for men. The crisis center is going to help me tackle all the debt she’s put me in and get me into an apartment that will have room for me and my kids!
Yesterday for the first time in 14 years, I was completely free. I just drove around town. I went and got an ice cream cone, and I got a Mexican Pizza from taco bell, and nobody insulted me, put me down, or made me feel worthless. I got a glimpse of me and I really miss that guy. I used to have the nick name smiley because I always walked around with a shit eating grin on my face because I love life and I love my job, but she’s worn away at me lately.
I might be homeless technically, but I have a safe space until I can get on my feet. I get my kids tonight, we’re going to have a pizza party and play Mario Kart together. I think everything is going to be fine soon…
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I’m doing it!
The crysis center already has an apartment for me. They’re going to pay first months rent and deposit, I can even have my cats with me!
Since I left my wife, I’ve been saving sooooo much money. I know how to cook on a budget, the kids aren’t picky, and I’m not wasting my money on door dash!
It’s gonna be a tough journey, but I can do this!
It sounds like you are already doing this!
Congrats and good luck!
I know you’re a stranger, but I get the keys to the apartment in about an hour!!!
I want to tell everyone, but I have nobody to tell. I’m FINALLY going to have a home to go home to.
Well, this stranger is happy for you! Here’s to a much happier and healthier future.
Im pretty happy but due to ADHD im never really satisfied with what i have currently in a sense.
I’m very grateful for my job, my current living situation and my partner but im always looking forward to new projects and stuff that i wanna do. I finish one thing and i really like that and then i move onto the next thing cause i feel like i have to. Just cant sit still for too long.
How it happened is i just got lucky. I got a good family that helped me with a place to live, my buddy helped me get my current job in an IT adjacent position, and i met my gf on tinder when she was just about to leave the app for good.
So yea, just kinda got lucky. I do work hard too and struggled alot with ADHD and other mental health issues before getting diagnosed so im glad things worked out eventually.
No. Money is why, and a work situation. Also never ever get married if you have even the slightest red flag about them. It’s not worth it.
I know I’m a generous person at heart but I get so few opportunities to show it because of money. It’s infuriating.
You can be generous with your time and empathy and people will tend to remember it more than money. It’s easy to be generous with money when you have it. It’s not as common to be generous with kindness.
I don’t know your work situation to know if you have time to spare (when others are available) but I hope you have time to at least enjoy your own life. Also, not getting married due to red flags is a good reason to not get married. It sucks to not find your a person for yourself but it’s honestly better than dreading going home.
I work 830-9 pm every weekday and generally 10-4 every weekend. I do my best but I really don’t have much time to be generous either. Thanks for your kind words though. I ended up sick this week when it’s my vacation week so I feel even shittier than usual.
That sounds awful. All of it. I hope your work hours are reduced to reasonable at some point soon, and I hope you don’t need to worry about money when that time comes.
Sadly no and no. I actually just got a third job that might end up helping a lot though. Thank you.
My values and dreams have changed a lot since I was a kid. I like the ones I have now, they’re more humane and compassionate.
I think I have an ok life, nothing amazing but I have a stable job, good marketable skills, a loving girlfriend and two cats. I’m not exactly where I want to be but I’m still working on it.
I had a lot of self realisations in the past few years and it made me understand who I was and why I am the way I am. So that’s also great I think.If it’s okay to ask, what changed to your dreams from then?
My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country which I did too, but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That’s still one of my goals.
As for dreams that never happened (or didn’t happen yet) one was to live in Singapore for a while and then New Zealand.My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country
I get that, I had that exact order of things I wanted to accomplish myself. It was rough, but I feel I’ve made it happen.
but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That’s still one of my goals.
But you went out, that’s an accomplishment. And if you could do it once, you can do it again. If it is harder for some reason now, you’ve had practice, you’ll do it. I believe in you.
Depends. I’m homebound due to an accident and illness several years ago and can’t take part in activities or have a social life like I used to while I feel like I’m getting older and missing out on so much.
But then again I’m very fortunate that I have insurance so that I don’t have to worry about economy and I’m pretty good at making the best of my situation and have projects going so I feel I’m moving forward even though in other directions than before and at a highly reduced pace.
So… It could be better. But it could be so much worse. To be honest, I feel way more thankful for what I’ve got than sadness of what I have not.
Strikes and gutters, ups and downs. This year’s been the drizzling shits, and it’s tough to keep my chin up but I’m getting by.
Hope you’re doing great OP
I am, but not in its entirety. There are still a lot of things I would like to achieve and a couple of other things in my environment that I dislike quite a bit, but overall I feel satisfied with myself and who I am today; something that a few years ago I couldn’t claim even if it cost me my life.
Sort of? I went to school after having my first two kids and have mostly been able to do work I like ok for companies I don’t consider evil. So that’s been good. Had lots of kids, I enjoyed that overall and they seem to be growing into good adults. Left my ex eventually when he got physically abusive (he was a chill stoner for 15 years who got unemployed then radicalized on the internet). In a good relationship now and we both have good jobs.
Honestly I think luck plays a large part in anybody’s results but the things I think helped me were:
Waiting until I was older to finish school so I knew better what I might like as a job.
Having children (obviously this is a YMMV thing but for me it’s been way more good than bad).
Trying not to overwork, but work at a sustainable pace that doesn’t burn me out. Keeping boundaries, taking PTO, not worrying about moving up some ladder, want good work and good pay and that’s all.
Yes I am, and I do. Perseverance through strife.
Have your dreams and happiness anything to do with crack, Crackhappy?
Lol. I have never done crack. This moniker stems from when I was in a Rocket Arena clan many ages ago, where the clan name was [CRACK] and I was known as Happy for my giggles as I rail shot people from across the map.
This cracked me up, thanks!
Absolutely not, no. How should this be possible with all the external responsibilities that need to be fulfilled in order to survive in a modern-day society?
