Reliability, patience, kindness, interest.

Previously, many fathers didn’t even change diapers. Reliably being there for your kid day after day, from diapers to little league games, are all important.

Patience because kids try new things in a new world they are still figuring out, and to you it might seem intentionally pushing buttons but they are literally new.

Kindness, because while you are dealing with them having a rough day causing you to have a rough day, you need to be kind to both yourself for getting frustrated and them. Life is rough, we don’t need to make it moreso for anyone.

Interest, because no one should feel like no one is on their side, like no one understands them. Encourage them for things they are interested. Be interested in what they have to say even when they are just telling you they saw a rock, because they just learned what a rock is. They will keep going to you and tell you all the things they are doing later in life too, and you will have a better overall relationship.

Different types of sugar are digested at different rates, even if they all taste sweet. Glucose, fructose, sucrose, even allulose are found in fruits I’m different amounts and are all suggested differently. There are also various starches that change digestion taste and some of that (not not all) break down into sugars with amylase in saliva. Different kinds of starches break down at different rates and are digested differently and can alter the sugar absorption. Different kinds of fibers feed different kinds of things in your gut biome and are processed differently by your body too. Those are just the basic categories of carbohydrates without going into details of the different roles they play in digestion.

Fruits, veg, whole grains, all have different nutrient profiles and your body treats them differently. Consuming a multivitamin with fiber supplement and sugar may get your caloric and some vitamin needs met but you will be missing many other things that a diet with a broad variety of foods can offer.

Some people are saying lack of compliments as a child, some are saying neglect.

I personally feel similarly much of the time. My parents would compliment me or tell me they are proud but usually just my mother and usually after my sibling did something and we are talking about how proud my mom is of them, like she forgot about me and “oh yeah I’m proud of you too, you do stuff too probably. You weirdo.”

My dad was emotionally detached and made jokes I could never get because I was a kid without the background knowledge to understand what the joke was. I’m not my mom’s favorite and that was always pretty clear. As I’ve grown up I’ve realized my mom’s favorite might be herself first, as she often makes many things about her, or changes topics to be about her.

I’m so accustomed to hearing things I can do better that those seem more comfortable to me. I know what to focus on and how I can try and improve. Or, someone just doesn’t like me or wants to complain and there isn’t anything I can do, I’m just there in their way of existing.

Generally with compliments I’ll say “thanks” or “thank you” but I’m more comfortable with critical feedback I can use to better myself in some way.

I don’t know your background, I can’t say why you feel the way you do. But you aren’t alone in feeling that way, ‘normal’ or not. If it causes you anxiety or other discomfort for extended periods of time I would suggest trying to work that out with someone, even just a diary if possible to get your thoughts down.

That sounds awful. All of it. I hope your work hours are reduced to reasonable at some point soon, and I hope you don’t need to worry about money when that time comes.

You can be generous with your time and empathy and people will tend to remember it more than money. It’s easy to be generous with money when you have it. It’s not as common to be generous with kindness.

I don’t know your work situation to know if you have time to spare (when others are available) but I hope you have time to at least enjoy your own life. Also, not getting married due to red flags is a good reason to not get married. It sucks to not find your a person for yourself but it’s honestly better than dreading going home.

I like peanut butter with sugar, but it’s candy in my mind. Peanut butter and jelly sandwich is just a dessert sandwich.

Depends on tea…

I start with boiling water because I don’t have a fancy kettle.

Tea bags? Leave in for a while, sometimes indefinitely, sometimes til the string annoys me. Black unflavored?With a little half and half. Sometimes brown sugar, tannin content depending. Black flavored (like Earl grey)? Plain. Green? A little honey. Most others? Plain

Loose? Timing depends on tea type, and can change based on specific tea and quality. Usually: Black/flavored green/lower quality teas? 3 minutes first brew, 5 till indefinite minutes second brew. Green? 1 minute first brew, 2 minutes second brew, 5 minutes third brew. Oolong/puer? 5 second rinse, toss the rinse, 20 second first brew. Or, without rinse, 30 second first brew. 1 minute second brew, 2 minute third brew, etc.

A lot of loose leaf depends on tea to water ratio too, these work for me. Quality and size of leaf effects how quickly the flavor can get into the water. Sometimes I’ll just stand over the brewing tea and sniff the whole time to determine best brew time. I might be a little crazy about it though.

I got this during COVID after I started taking supplements (needed iron, vitamin d, b12), and biking. The second day when the nutrients took effect and I biked for a while, I ate some whole grains and took a poop any everything was wonderful. I stretched, slept well, everything. Take care of your body and it takes care of you (how it should be anyway, bodies may vary).

Whenever having a tough conversation, be prepared to either accept whatever they offer or find a new job. Welcome to America, it is what it is.

You probably signed a contract initially stating the starting rate. You can ask for this. You may have been told the wrong starting salary, you may have been given the bait and switch. It is probably too late to change the past, regardless. You can ask for a raise of $0.50 starting current (or more likely next) pay period. They can say “it’s not the time of year we give raises” and “your would not have been told that, it isn’t our standard” etc. You can look for what their current starting rate is for the job you are currently doing and apply to the same job within the company, when asked why you are doing this you can point out you were denied market value raise.

My first toy was hard plastic. After a couple years the painted coating was coming off. After that I only buy medical grade silicone, sometimes with hard plastic bullet inserts which can be replaced but never even touch my skin unless I’m taking them out for washing or replacing the battery.