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    Don’t make the same mistake as our generation and fall for TikTok, Instagram and that shit.

    Almost everything is better without it, from concerts to weekend trips to relationships.

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    Just because you don’t understand something within the first 5 seconds doesn’t mean it’s stupid.

    Also information changes on a daily basis. Just because someone gave you different information than what you were taught doesn’t mean they were taught wrong. Look it up.

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    Burnout is real. Step back for a bit and return rested, instead of abandoning the fight for justice entirely. Taking breaks is just as important as being active.

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    Children (be they your own or unrelated children you have responsibility for) are people, not property or pets or whatever. Treat them as such. They’re just people with less experience and more vulnerability.

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    If something or someone makes you feel bad, get it or them out of your life.

    Find contentment within yourself if you want a healthy relationship.

    Let go of things and don’t let your ego control you.

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    Don’t be afraid of healthy change and always admit fault.

    While some of the shit coming out in our current generation can be stupid or superfluous always take it in context and see how it could be used to better your life.

    Ex. Increase in mental health awareness recontexualizes your childhood.

    Also listening. Even if the shit coming out of your child’s/younger coworker mouth is some bonkers shit at least listen to them without judgement. Will make any criticism that much better received

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      You realize 31 year olds were only 10 when YouTube came out? They have lived nearly their whole lives with it. Why do so many people under 30 think anyone over 30 is 50 years old?

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        When someone is having a computer problem I ask them to restart first. Not because I think they don’t know to do it, but just in case. Some people don’t know. Sometimes people forget. Obvious advice is useful sometimes.

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    You don’t have to have children, don’t feel pressured by friends & family.

    You don’t need to be in a relationship, don’t feel pressured by friends & family.

    Go travel. See things, eat food, drink wine, enjoy yourself.

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      You don’t need to be in a relationship, don’t feel pressured by friends & family.

      How can i tell this to bills?

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      Yep, this is what I’m going to do. I’m in my 30s now and I’m going to start travelling. I was going to wait until I was in my 40s but I realized nothing is promised so I might as well go ahead and do it now.

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    Living is an art. I grew up in a very rich neighborhood, and despite their wealth, many were troubled. Tons of high functioning drug addicts, alcoholics, Hoarders, narcissists, etc. it was kind of surreal.

    We also had a family friend who was poor, not verge of homelessness poor, but impoverished relative to the town we lived. Like everyone, he had his fair share of problems, and worked a lot, but he was happy. Very few things deeply troubled him and he always maintained a calm and collected demeanor. Extremely intelligent too. When I was down, upset, angry, or outright furious, he was always there to impart his wisdom, and I am a better man for it.

    Seemingly few people recognize the crucial art of living. Not to live without problems but live in spite of them. So many miserable, privileged people I’ve met in that town.

  • Duży Szef [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
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    fucking relax, take a break sometimes, let time fly and just don’t give a shit

    “but I have responsibilities!!!”

    fuck em, put your legs up on the coffee table and I dunno… just stop and think about the minute shit around you. or reminisce. have you called jon recently? fuuuuck man you should hit him up. ohhh you can’t arrange a date to meet? then fucking get that one day yourself to meet with him whenever he can

    i see so many people over 30 be overworked, overstressed and downright complacent with all the shit they have to go through

    just fuck it all for at least one day man, cause if that’s what life’s supposed to be then i don’t wanna get old, just to be surrounded by those who are letting all of life’s bullshit control every little fiber of them

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      I’ve thought about this from time to time. Have we been kind of a neurotic generation? I could never tell if it was just me that was seeing things or what. The under 30s seems more indifferent. Might be because they are mostly the children of Gen-X? Are over 30s a bit uptight? How did we end up this way?

      From personal experience growing up so many kids were obsessed with the rat race from way too young. That whole mindset that you must to university to get all your credentials to fit yourself into a cookie cutter. The defacto life track until the illusion started to crack.

      All in all I think the over 30 generation has a really hard time with self reflection. In particular talking about the faults of our own generation. Which is paradoxical against the whole mental health awareness stuff.

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    Find a hobby that will allow you to keep your sanity during difficult times (unemployment and such) and after you retire.

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    Get out and make friends. Yes I know it gets harder as you get older, but it’s often the difference between dying alone and demented young and sticking around and finding happiness until your body gives out.

    Also, remember your grandparents and parents from time to time after they’re gone. It hurts but it’s good for you.

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      I’m trying but I’m in a new place and the past few years every time I start to make a friend….

      Tap for spoiler

      It turns out they love fascism.

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    I’m in a weird spot here at 30 years old, but let’s see…

    My advice to younger people would be to take care of their mental health, and to do it via scientific practices.
    For example, cognitive behavioral therapy has enough evidence of it working; therapy through spirits, don’t. Medication can be necessary and its effectiveness is proven; that’s not the case for extreme diets.

    Also, philosophical counseling is a thing and it is good, but just like psychotherapy, it may not be enough. Sometimes we are dealing with mental disorders that require pharmacological treatment. Conversely, psychiatry and medication are there for people who need it, but sometimes we don’t need it and we need better habits, better environment, counseling, etc. It is usually a combination of many things the way we can start feeling better.

    I’ll still read the advice from others because, well, I’m sure I can learn a lot from them.

    Edit: I thought it was the other way around. Oh, well, it still applies. I wish my parents and other people their age would give mental health treatments a try.