I feel like I used to have a satisfactory layout for years but haven’t since found a consistently comfortable arrangement. I like to have a fairly thick pillow or two under my head to accommodate my bad shoulder, a pillow between my thighs to avoid chafed skin, and a pillow for hugging - also mostly for my shoulder.
The head ones tend to get distorted really quickly and it’s really difficult to find a good hugging pillow.
1️⃣ long one of memory foam pellets . Very particular about pillow stuffing material , must hold it’s shape so can comfortably rest head on it without sinking . Gone thru some bad long pillows before
I tried several pillows made of different materials different brands and everything else. But after all that I concluded the most comfortable I was when I used no pillows.
The big pillow is lying to you. You don’t need a pillow for comfortable sleep \s
2 pillows stacked on each other most nights. Sometimes I just have the one. Very rarely I will have none because for some reason that is whats needed to sleep
mostly no setup. 1-2 pillows scattered on bed if not on floor, I use them according to hugging needs at that point.
Chaotic.
like my life
Well, in the interest of randomness, please do tell me about your username.
I’ve no idea
… All right.
big pillow and blahaj
pillow under my head, pillow between my arms/elbows, and a pillow between my knees. 3 pillows total
One hard pillow as I sleep on my side and need the neck support. And then one bean bag tube type thing to rest my wrist on so that my arm doesn’t have to be entirely horizontal—more comfortable that way.
I just use the duvet to go between my thighs/knees.
how do you keep the arm with that tube thing? can you give a geometry/sketch/ascii?
Please, tell me more about the bean bag tube type thing.
It’s the best way I can describe it. It’s an approximately pillow-sized tube filled with the stuff they fill bean bags with.
Gotcha, thanks.
I use a bath towel folded twice the short way. Nice and flat for back sleeping. I can make it thicker for side sleeping by folding the end under as needed when I roll over. But I use a CPAP so I don’t roll much at all.
Interesting, I don’t think I’ve encountered someone using a towel long term.
I use a CPAP, too, but toss and turn so much that I think the arm flick to adjust the air hose during the turn has become reflexive.
Two thin pillows stacked and oriented vertically. Thinness is key because they’re easy to fold or roll to “make” pillows of various shapes and thicknesses, to support whatever position I feel like lying in.
I’ve heard that before and tried it myself, but I’ve always found that whatever custom shape I make unravels itself as I sleep, waking me up.
It’s not perfect, but having thin pillows that are a bit worn/broken-in can make then less likely to spring back into their flat shape. The way you place them can also help… for example, rolling downward toward the mattress instead of up, rolling the bottom one and placing the top one across it to hold the roll in place, or placing two half-rolled pillows in a, uh, “69” orientation so the pillows keep each other’s roll in place with friction. Depending on how you sleep you also might be able to train yourself to shift position/roll over without lifting your head, but that’s more of a challenge.
Shredded latex is the answer, 100%. But only if you are able to remove (or add) the latex as needed. I found I needed about half of what the pillow came with. Maybe a third?
The result is a pillow that can do it all: prop up your head for reading in bed, become mostly neck support for back sleeping (with a bit of shaping; takes seconds but isn’t automatic,) and ditto for side sleeping but at a slightly higher height.
Once you get used to a pillow that holds its shape and provides excellent support, all other pillows feel archaic.
Well, you definitely seem like an authority on the subject!
I don’t think I’ve stuck with this approach for more than a consecutive week or two, so perhaps I need to give them more time before they get comfortable.
An adjustable, removable fill, cutout, side sleep pillow. https://a.co/d/aXcI4Wx
I’ve even bought one for my step mom. The brand is amazing, and removable fill is the way to go.
I’ve tried one of those - not that brand, a generic one - and sadly found that I tend to slide down in my sleep, leaving my head in the cutout overnight. Perhaps a nicer brand would resolve that. Thank you for the recommendation!
Oh interesting. I’m not sure about the sliding down, I’ve not had that happen. The one I linked holds it shape very well, the recommendations actually say you should fluff it every night but I have only fluffed it like 4 or five times since getting it years ago.
You’re welcome for the recommendation!
I think I might have been thinking of this one.
Holy cow that’s an expensive pillow. I thought mine was expensive lol
Sadly, for me, it wasn’t worth the cost; however, my kid did enjoy laying on it to watch TV for at least a few days, so perhaps they’d recommend it.
A good foam pillow under my head, a bit of my blanket between my knees. Sometimes I think about getting one of those knee pillows but so far I haven’t bothered.
I won’t go back to a down-filled pillow. Those will inevitably stop supporting my head during the night.
3 pillows, one in the middle that’s lower and 2 on the sides to keep my giant head from shifting too much to one side so my neck isn’t put under pressure.
You know, I named my cat “Hex,” short for “Hexadecimal.” I don’t think I’ll be introducing you to her.
It’s for Reboot. Ifykyk.
I don’t know the details, but from my vague memories of that show, I can extrapolate.
You still can’t meet my cat.
Just an ordinary rectangular pillow. Contrast with European square pillows, which are way too big. It’s served me well for the past 20+ years (yes, the same pillow) as a side sleeper.
My oldest pillow is about fifteen years old and was one of my first purchases in my own home - it’s the one I now use to avoid skin chafing. Back then it was for my head.
I didn’t know European pillows were different, though I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised.
edit: s/about/avoid/
I feel so boring now. One normal pillow and one memory foam beside each other for sleeping on my side or stomach
It may debatably be boring, but at least you know you can find comfort reliably, unlike those of us with more bespoke needs.
