In a romantic relationship or otherwise. I’m being ghosted over a job, so I ask randos on the internet about what they do. WBY?
Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice I’ve been trying to follow. It helps having it reinforced. It’s just hard for several reasons any of which would make it my top choice.
- It’s in the city my sister lives in. I haven’t lived near my family since I finished high school
- My job is inherently transient; I move every 1-2 years. This one gave me some permanency
- I’ve been doing the same thing for the last 10 years. This one gives me additional responsibilities
- It’s prestigious and would come with higher pay
I’ll be working on it, but like I said it’s tough. It’s almost like the universe gave me the perfect go fuck yourself.
As someone who is in incredibly extroverted, you just have to take the hint and move on. Being ghosted is many people’s solution to the problem of “I don’t want to be around that person/do the thing but I don’t want to be impolite.” Just gotta accept it and move on to the next person you want to annoy into being your friend.
You aren’t entitled to a response if someone doesn’t want to respond. Suck it up and move on.
Everyone deserves respect, provided they haven’t been a dick head.
Do you really want to have a relationship (of any kind) with someone that treats other people that way?
Sign them up for something embarrassing or offensive via snail mail and use their first and last name (ghoster) but instead of their actual address, you use the neighbor’s address.
With jobs, it’s just the job market right now. Companies aren’t interested in keeping good relations with applicants. Expect to just never hear back on a significant number of your applications.
Move on and not think about it at all.
If some recruiter ghosted you, don’t bother them and move on
Move on, get your mind off of it by doing something new and wild (bungee?) or something familiar that never involved that person
A job (assuming it’s one I’ve not already got): they don’t want you, move on. It’s the same thing as a rejection. You can chase up once but I don’t see why bother more than once.
A person you’re talking to romantically: check in on them, if they don’t respond after messaging a few times over a few days it’s deliberate and they’re not interested. Move on. It probably wasn’t that serious if they ghosted you, or if you’re actually in a serious monogamous relationship and they ghost you then I’d either worry they’ve actually gone missing or something’s happened to them, or they are just a massive asshole to not be able to actually break up with you properly.
I despise people that ghost others and I see it as nothing but maladaptive and sad. A person who ghosts is someone who lacks enough empathy to understand how damaging it is to others, it’s someone who lacks conflict resolution skills, who internalized Internet block / unfriend buttons in their mind as a viable way to terminate any relationship.
When I was younger, people didn’t do this shit. I grew up without the Internet and didn’t have it until I was an adult, younger people don’t realize it, but people didn’t use to do this, and it’s hurtful and infuriating how technology has affected this aspect of human behavior.
