Yearly childcare is a years worth of income in plenty of places, so there’s that too.

The car behind me or across the intersection’s headlights blinding me making it hard to see the road and also potentially causing a migraine. Ban them from the streets!

Did you Google this? They have cameras that look like phone chargers. Also, install a non hidden camera and a hidden one.

If you’ve been challenged to a foot race and you have the choice, wear your skeleton, muscles, and skin for your best chance at winning. If you’re being made to pick only one, choose muscles over skeleton.

Libby isn’t the only app though! My library uses Libby and overdrive and maybe even a third one

Or just keep adding lamps. My bathrooms have lamps now instead of overhead lights. My Livingroom has 4 lamps. Someone please send help.

I just started Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb. So far a delight! By a therapist about therapy, and just the kind of humor I like in non fiction :)

Kids! I thought when I was a kid I wanted them no matter what. In my early twenties I decided I only wanted kids if I could find the right partner. Now I have one. Sometimes my partner is great, sometimes he sucks. I don’t care, because my kid is great. She’s a joy to be around and gives my life purpose in a way I didn’t realize was possible. My whole purpose is just to enjoy reading her a story in that moment. My whole purpose is to feed her when she’s hungry. My whole purpose is to look into her eyes. My whole purpose is just to enjoy the moment I’m in, and she accidentally causes me to be fully present so often. It’s amazing.

That said, I would say if you’re not 80% sure you want kids, don’t. Figure out what would get you to 80% first. Financial stability, a good partner, a solid career field, etc.

Did anybody else read tangerine as a kid? I still think about it pretty often and I’m 30.

My ex (though really his mom i guess) taught me you can just run a half empty dishwasher. I grew up without a lot of money, so we weren’t running the dishwasher until it was full (big family, so pretty often). But when you’re one or two people, it never fills up so I was just hand washing dishes, hating my life. They ran the dishwasher every night no matter how full or empty it was. At 9pm, the dishwasher started. It’s stupid to say it changed my life, but now I just run it whenever I want. I also run my washing machine all the time and folding half loads is so much better, I no longer hate laundry.

For the US at least:

"New research by Vanderbilt Professor Jessica A. Kennedy finds the gender difference in tendency to negotiate has now reversed, and the widespread narrative that women don’t ask is outdated. While other measures are necessary to completely close the gender pay gap, the study also discusses how people who believe and adhere to the notion that “women don’t ask” hinder progress. "

https://business.vanderbilt.edu/news/2023/09/05/stop-blaming-women-for-the-gender-pay-gap/#:~:text=New research out of Vanderbilt,more likely to be rejected.