I found the “5 love/appreciation languages” to be one HELL of an eye-opener:

It hadn’t dawned on me that trinkets/gifts could be a primary love-language, for anyone, ever,

AND it explained the behaviour of some people I knew.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages

Read the 5 types on there, & see IF the person you’re interested in helping has some distinct lopsidedness on those 5 ways.

THEN figure out what to do to help 'em.

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