I remember the distinct feeling of hazing from my professors. You know, “The reason you have to suffer now is that I suffered when I went through the same thing. If we fix the problem and stop the suffering, then all of my suffering would be meaningless, and that wouldn’t feel fair to me.”
Sounds the same as MDs and residents.
I had a manager who wouldn’t respect anyone who didn’t yell at him. Seriously. He had serious anger issues and would fly off the handle over nothing. He directed a lot of shit at me in particular, probably because I’ve been traumatized by crap like this before and that sociopath probably sensed it. I wasn’t yet aware of a lot of resources I know about today, didn’t have the self-esteem I’ve since found, and I was homeless at the time (thank goodness, I had friends who let me stay temporarily), so I absolutely depended on this job.
One day, a coworker told me that he only stops picking on someone when they yell at him. Sadly, I can’t give you the satisfying response you’re probably expecting: I refused to yell at him. I thought the entire idea was absurd, extremely unprofessional, and had the potential to backfire terribly.
I wish I could say that was the last manager to pick on me, but thankfully the last one was a mental health professional and had the listening skills to take my feedback and the desire for self-improvement to act on it … albeit only after she made me cry.
Man, I didn’t mean to trauma-dump. But after the shit I’ve been through, I can’t imagine attempting to pass such suffering onto others. I’m extremely grateful for the supportive environment that (usually) surrounds the therapy field. It feels good to be honest with managers and supervisors and know they respect constructive criticism. I can almost feel my heart healing.
I had one of these colleagues. He insisted that he respects force, but whenever I pushed back, homie would run crying to our mutual boss.
One time, I snapped and yelled at him that I am a 15 year veteran, I know how to do my job. I ended up being forced to apologize to him for not respecting his ‘many years of experience.’
You won by not stooping, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
What’s with the recent influx of posts against higher education, or more in general, anti-education posts?
Around here, it’s probably because people are deeply aware of all the problems and unaware of all the gains.
The neighbor’s grass is always greener…
Academia is absolutely fucked. The job market was already bad before Trump and he’s certainly not helping
Found the grad student! Which is it bud, history or art?
Masters in bioinformatics, but I’d be proud to be on art or history, your comments only reflects the limitations of your own weak mind. It’s super weird, and telling, that you decided to single out history and art.
Lollllllll
As someone who might be going to grad school soon to wait out this bullshit job market…ouch
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The good thing about the Trump budget cuts is grad students realizing doing literally anything else is more lucrative (while they also work toward their degree).
