“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.
I understand how it could be insulting as a command. “Go suck a dick” implies that it’s an undesirable activity to be used as punishment.
I don’t understand the homophobia in using sucking dick like kissing ass, swinging from their nuts, or cucking. They are interchangeable in both context and sexuality.
Again, the root is that performing sexual favors for someone you are supporting or defending is in shame. The source of this shame, is that society sees such an action in a negative light. If you say someone supporting someone is sucking them off, it implies that they are taking a shameful action that if discovered they would be embarrassed.
It weaponizes society’s homophobia to silence others. On top of being rude, it’s based in misogyny and homophobia.
It wouldn’t be homophobic to claim you were kissing a woman’s ass. It would still be rooted in sexual shame, which has misognyistic roots. I told you quite plainly that I openly display my pronouns and am a pansexual man, saying I am sucking someone’s dick is homophobic in this case.
So the only way to use a sexually charged analogy for sidling without being homophobic is to ensure the sexual act differed from the subject’s sexual preference if they’re homosexual, bisexual, or pansexual, but aligned with their sexual preference if they’re heterosexual?
Also, I thought pronouns only assisted in determining gender. How could I know your sexual preference simply by knowing your gender?
I’m pretty sure you’re asking for more awareness and consideration than most people are willing to provide.
I picked up on your intentions, believe me, but the origins for why it is insulting is rooted in shame, misogyny, and homophobia. To copy my comment:
“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.
I think they meant sucking dick like kissing ass, not like sucking dick as a form of punishment. I don’t think it was intended to be homophobic.
“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.
Absurd.
Using it as an insult is homophobic. Doing it for pleasure is the opposite (assuming both pariticipants are men).
I understand how it could be insulting as a command. “Go suck a dick” implies that it’s an undesirable activity to be used as punishment.
I don’t understand the homophobia in using sucking dick like kissing ass, swinging from their nuts, or cucking. They are interchangeable in both context and sexuality.
Again, the root is that performing sexual favors for someone you are supporting or defending is in shame. The source of this shame, is that society sees such an action in a negative light. If you say someone supporting someone is sucking them off, it implies that they are taking a shameful action that if discovered they would be embarrassed.
It weaponizes society’s homophobia to silence others. On top of being rude, it’s based in misogyny and homophobia.
How is it homophobic if someone told me, a straight man, that I’m kissing a woman’s ass? How do you even know my sexual preference in the first place?
I could understand claims of sexism in general, but homophobia is not all-encompassing to your point of shame.
It wouldn’t be homophobic to claim you were kissing a woman’s ass. It would still be rooted in sexual shame, which has misognyistic roots. I told you quite plainly that I openly display my pronouns and am a pansexual man, saying I am sucking someone’s dick is homophobic in this case.
So the only way to use a sexually charged analogy for sidling without being homophobic is to ensure the sexual act differed from the subject’s sexual preference if they’re homosexual, bisexual, or pansexual, but aligned with their sexual preference if they’re heterosexual?
Also, I thought pronouns only assisted in determining gender. How could I know your sexual preference simply by knowing your gender?
I’m pretty sure you’re asking for more awareness and consideration than most people are willing to provide.
Yeah, not sure how they didn’t pick up on that.
I picked up on your intentions, believe me, but the origins for why it is insulting is rooted in shame, misogyny, and homophobia. To copy my comment:
“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.