I picked up on your intentions, believe me, but the origins for why it is insulting is rooted in shame, misogyny, and homophobia. To copy my comment:
“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.
Yeah, not sure how they didn’t pick up on that.
I picked up on your intentions, believe me, but the origins for why it is insulting is rooted in shame, misogyny, and homophobia. To copy my comment:
“Sucking dick” as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as “subservient,” which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it’s pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a “shameful” position giving sexual favors to men.
Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.
Tangentially, “kissing ass” has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.