• BassTurd@lemmy.world
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    Kill them with kindness. Be direct and to the point, but make them hate you more because you’re too nice. That way, if they want to talk shit about you, all they can say is that you’re too nice.

    As someone else mentioned, if you screwed up, make amends, then the kindness thing.

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    Avoid them when you can. Clear, minimal, a bit more polite than you would like to be when you can’t. If it’s work related focus on your common goal.

    I’d also advise you to take some time to reflect on what makes them dislike you. If you find a lot of people who dislike you for similar reasons you may have to evaluate if you should (and can) change.

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    They don’t have to like you and it’s okay that they don’t. Don’t take it personally. Unless of course you’re an asshole.

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    I don’t mean to be flippant, but do do you know they don’t like you, or do they just not care about you. It’s both a liberating and disheartening day when you discover no one gives a shit about you.

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    Stop caring. There is nobody you could be that will please everybody, and if there was…there’d be nothing of you left as you morphed to fit the situation and company around you. Just be yourself and ignore their passive aggressive BS or avoid if possible.

    (yes, it is that simple but still harder than it sounds. Ask yourself “Do I need to give a shit about this?” and the answer will usually be no.)

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    Borrow something from then. Then, when you return it, be very grateful, and maybe give a bottle or chocolates or say you owe them one.

    After that they will be nicer to you.

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      You might want to scale that down a little bit. I never borrowed somebody’s tape gun for a minute at work and thought, what a nice coworker I should send him flowers.

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        Indeed. I should have said “borrow something important”. It needs to be something they care about, or something they know you care a lot about. How you say thanks are examples.

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    Haters gonna hate. It probably comes from a sense of jealousy or low self-esteem. Don’t let those people get to you. Don’t give them a single moment of your brain power. If you do, they win.