Privacy for me has been incredibly rewarding, but when talking to people who haven’t been introduced to privacy, there are occasionally some moments that make it exhausting. One conversation in particular is one that I’ve had to go through dozens of times, and it always goes along these lines:

  • Alice: Why is your phone in airplane mode? / What’s your phone number?
  • Bob: I don’t have a carrier.
  • Alice: But you have a phone.
  • Bob: Yes.
  • Alice: How do you not have a carrier?
  • Bob: Phones can come without a carrier.
  • Alice: What do you use it for?
  • Bob: Everything you use yours for.
  • Alice: How do you talk to people?
  • Bob: Messaging apps over Wi-Fi.
  • Alice: What if you don’t have Wi-Fi?
  • Bob: Public Wi-Fi is everywhere. If I don’t have Wi-Fi, I likely don’t need to get in touch.
  • Alice: What about emergencies?
  • Bob: I can still contact emergency services.

Each time it happens, it has a unique flavor. One person accused me of lying and then fraud. I know people are just curious and don’t mean to be rude, but it makes me die a little inside every time someone asks. I’ve begun trying to sidestep the conversation entirely:

  • Alice: Why is your phone in airplane mode?
  • Bob: To save battery.

or:

  • Alice: What’s your phone number?
  • Bob: You can contact me with an app called Signal.

People seem to think that a phone automatically comes with a carrier and that it’ll stop working if you don’t have one. In reality, I’m saving hundreds of dollars per year while avoiding spam, fraud, breaches, surveillance, and being chronically online. People have a hard time coping with those who do things a little differently.

  • MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world
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    Technology can be adapted to everyone’s unique workflow.

    Yours is a highly specialised one, that apparently works for you. Something i may try for a day or two, but am confident can never adapt to my work flow. (Only know 2 “free” WiFi spots in my town. One wants an account. The other wants a phone number)

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    Playing devil’s advocate, I think it’s reasonable to have a load-up-minutes dumb phone, in case family dies or something and they don’t have access to the right app. That’s reasonable for close family to get upset about.

    But you also don’t have to give that number out, heh.

    I guess you could use Google Voice too, but that’s a bit… counterproductive unless you can sandbox the app.

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      I think it’s reasonable to have a load-up-minutes dumb phone

      Those are becoming harder and harder to find. It’s hard to even find prepaid SIM cards. You now have to buy a voucher, create an account, and add it there, which activates the phone for the number of months the voucher is worth.

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    This is the scene from Parks and Rec where Ron Swanson has to eventually concede to getting a flip phone.

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    So… I’m kind of in the same situation but mine is actually by mistake. Namely my SIM somehow (OK maybe I tinkered with eSIM a bit much… anyway) works for data and SMS but not for calls. I tried to fix it a bit… then honestly I like it without. Most of the calls I received are not important, nor urgent, and the few that are can leave a message or an SMS.

    I stopped relying on my phone for calls entirely and I like it.

    When I tell people it doesn’t work they just shrug it off and always find a way to contact me without making a big deal out of it.

    I still like having a SIM though if only to

    • check where I am on a path the first time I get there
    • know if the person I’m meeting might be late
    • warn if I’m late on the way to somewhere

    but typically my phone works well entirely offline (e.g. I do not stream music, I have actual files on my phone) so I understand.

    Honestly in your shoes I’d gauge the person, if they are potentially interesting enough to explore the topic with curiosity, I’d be honest. If I just want to move on because they seem obtuse I’d keep it to the minimum.

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    The sad truth is: you can’t talk about online privacy with normal people, they just won’t understand, if you try to explain it, they don’t care, simple as that! They’ll ignore anything you say and probably call you paranoid.

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      I generally keep my privacy habits to myself, but if someone asks I will tell them. It’s always better to try with a chance of getting them interested than not to try at all.

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      Jup. I made that conclusion too.

      However one time two friends asked me about secure messengers and I reluctantly gave up that I used Signal. Since then everyone in my closer friend circle suddenly had Signal.

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    If you explain yourself, people take that as meaning it’s up for debate. Better to say “I like it that way”.

    I considered swapping to a flip-phone but stopped because I need to be able to access my banking app when near ATM’s. My card only ever has the bare minimum amount of money on it so that theft isn’t a concern.

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      No. Not any more.

      Edit: Sorry apparently you still need a number for the registration.

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        I don’t know how to get one and shouldn’t have to, just to use an app like Signal. Why isn’t there one we can use without having to give them a phone #?

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          Just use matrix or xmpp. Signal is centralized. If they stop offering the service it’s gone forever.

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            There’s always a compromise between security and accessibility. Signal is nice in that it’s pretty secure while also being acceptable. More secure options aren’t very accessible to the average person.

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              Signal does not care about anyone who does not use android or ios and offers no official way to create an account without them. I wouldn’t call that accessible.

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            That seems like a better idea, but it 's the same old problem where you’d have to get the people you want to communicate with to switch from Signal to that.

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    Do you use your phone for navigation when driving? Any good app recommendations for navigating without cellular data?

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        Hopefully they can be overhauling UI to be much better. Would be cool if they made calls to wider community for UI people to come in to help out

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      Last time I checked, you can use GPS without carrier. GPS, and GNSS in general, is separate set of satellites. With cellular It’s just more precise since initial triangulation facilitated by cell towers. I recently was mid 5 hours flight and was able to see my location in google maps despite being in flight mode

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    Something I’ve been investigating is setting up a meshtastic node at home with the expansion board. This gives me a 15-20km range for basic signal, which is more than enough for most stuff I want to do, and I can connect to other nodes in the area when needed.

    I’d still need to add a temporary eSIM when traveling sometimes, but that can be a temporary thing.

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    I did something similar with an old spare phone for a while when my actual phone screen stopped working. I carried both around, but I found 90% of my use cases didn’t involve phone calls or even texting.

    I do find it convenient to have my phone connected to tailscale so I can access my home network from anywhere.

    And I don’t necessarily trust public wifi.

    But otherwise, I fully support this and think it’s entirely viable for most people.

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      Setup a VPN to your home router and use that when you are on a public wifi. That way all your traffic is fully encypted through the public wifi.

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    I’ve never had someone ask me for my phone number. They usually ask me to text them, at which point they have my (throw away) number.

    Everyone is totally unaware when I’m de-carriered.

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    How do you use signal without a phone number? I last time i installed, i couldn’t use it without a phone number. I tried virtual numbers and couldn’t get an account for signal