the experimental phase of plebs having computing autonomy is winding down. alas, this is one of the many signs

but how do you know whether to trust that information

test it, break it, see what happens.

https://thelounge.chat/

my homebrew theory is its also so you can smell directionally.

afaik it was originally about freedom from oppression. as with so many things, it has been hijacked by bigots and they’ve twisted it to now mean their freedom to oppress others.

• Mitch Hedberg
• Wanda Sykes

corporate koolaid frequently masquerades as ‘knowledge’, and is parroted rather than built up from first principles.

compared to reddit, an average lemmy user would tend more towards the latter than the former.

be on the lookout for the cognitive dissonance which can precede the realisation you’ve been parroting corporate propaganda. it’s ok, it happens to all of us, but the sooner we realise the better for everyone.

admittedly i’m not up to date on all the drama, but i thought that graphene saw themselves as victims of alt attacks?

some of it is kind of inevitable when you see how far ahead from everyone else they are technically and when people shitting on their work just aren’t at their (technical) level it seems to be very draining. and eventually lead to dramas.

for alot of people their relationship with windows is like that of an abusive partner. which is why you see alot of the same excuses pop up

honestly surprised to see so many downvotes.

I’ve been trying to compact my writing lately, and perhaps failed to communicate clearly. because i really felt like i’d already pre-agreed with everything you wrote when i said

society currently seems to project an emotionally stunted image onto the male identity. but it’s important to note this is a sickness in current society rather than anything inherently “male”.

obviously i didn’t communicate properly, because imo that’s in perfect agreement with what you said here

how we’re socialised to handle our feelings also plays a big role

this is what i meant about society projecting an ‘incomplete’ image onto the male identity. i want to stress here, this isn’t a statement about any man, or even men as a group. imo it has nothing to do with “maleness” and everything to do with an impossibly hamstrung identity being thrust onto people. by impossible i mean it’s literally impossible for any human to exist as an emotional shadow like that. no human can do it & we’re expecting 50% of the population to magically achieve it. whatcouldgowrong.jpg

i’ve spent quite some time trying to work out exactly where it comes from, i’m still not sure but i feel like a big dose of victorian era repression sure didn’t help, plus perhaps alot of unprocessed trauma from the men who went to WW1 and experienced an entirely unprecedented form of PTSD en masse (what at the time was called shellshock) those men who came home brought it into their families and became our fathers fathers fathers etc etc. it’s definitely intergenerational imo.

i also think as society progresses technologically, there is less need for ‘male brute force’ to ‘provide’, so it will naturally create a bit of a vacuum in the perceived “male role”. i can easily imagine an alternate history where something positive and strong had filled this vacuum instead of the poisoned version we got.

i personally deeply do not believe it is something inherent in men, and i think this is supported by the stats you raise which shows a disparity in the distribution vs world average.

rather i very much see this as a deep flaw in our current society, men are emotionally hamstrung and have dangerously impossible emotional expectations placed on them (again, this isn’t the fault of any one gender or group, it is society at large to blame here). (and of course equally insane but different expectations are thrust onto all genders)

a huge part of the problem imo is when boys are taught not to cry - actually wait, it’s even worse, they’re taught “boys don’t cry”, this is an unbelievable absurdity. crying is natural, normal & healthy. not only denying boys & men this natural emotional outlet, but tangling it up with the idea that “boys don’t do it” therefore if one does, some part of their supposed identity is under threat. it’s quite simply unbelievably toxic, it’s literally poison. and. it. hurts. everyone.

but that’s fundamentally why i think calling it ‘The male loneliness epidemic’ is hurtful to everyone. alongside all the usual ragebait hooks, there’s the sleight of hand of reducing a monumental issue to a fragment of the actual scale of the problem.

Short Answer

imo the rise of loneliness effects both women & men about equally in terms of scope.

the push to strongly gender the ‘epidemic’ one way or the other is classic ragebait.

Longer Answer

Yes society currently seems to project an emotionally stunted image onto the male identity. but it’s important to note this is a sickness in current society rather than anything inherently “male”.

and it’s causing alot more suffering for all genders than just ‘loneliness’. calling it The male loneliness epidemic is just loaded with so many hooks, it’s just classic bait.

men vs women is “powerful” for ragebait because it’s literally half the population vs the other half.

no problem solving in bed when you should be resting. if something pops up, identify it & make a note (mental or otherwise) to address it at a later time.

without further explanations of OP’s intent i’m inclined to think this is perhaps the best approach

without further context, i’m not sure you could read much into a single act of downloading

it could be as simple as it contained some keywords for a lit review someone was doing

from there they might eliminate it from their review, choose to cite it favourably, or choose to criticise it.

if the journal has a good reputation, being a comparatively frequently read (downloaded) paper from a periodical could be considered a positive reception.

I fucking hate this timeline.

my first thought as well…how did we get to the point that this is a valid topic?

(not a comment about you OP, just the state of the world)

i feel like this is a good place to mention the ship shipping ships

https://www.superyachtshipping.com/

searching for ‘phpbb <topic name>’ can usually bring up a few struggling to dead forums for niche communities which are being sadly absorbed into bigtech monoliths

it’s even worse than that cos the original text never said ariel’s human version race, they just assumed it lol.

and before anyone says yes but its written by a dane, my response is yes but it’s a fairy tale, anything is possible. why assume and then get angry based on your assumption?

well yeah most of its operating software was derived from opensource projects, but capitalists exploited those opensource project without giving much if anything back, so…