I’ve been independent since 18. I don’t maintain my independence… it’s never been an option for me to be a dependent on anyone else.

my experience of lemmy is groups 1 and 2 just attack and insult group 3.

at best they try to ‘educate’ you about how stupid you are for not being a communist or anarchist.

groups 1 and 2 don’t seem to have much tolerance for anyone who doesn’t believe in their ideologically rigid world view

80% of the comments i get screaming at me how i am a fascist pig are .ml users.

the major benefit is there isn’t enough of a dipshit brigade to drown out the genuine smart people who are saying insightful things… yet

but i’ve been here over a year, and the dipshit brigade is growing rapidly. soon enough they will become mods and start banning anyone who doesn’t agree with their dipshit agenda. but at least their power will be limited to only banning you on their particular instance.

reddit used to have lots of cool diverse voices, and that all ended once it became popular enough that your parents new what it was and corporations were desperate to use it to shrill and advertise.

personally i felt like anytime i sub went over 100,000 subscribers it rapidly went to shit. if it was under 100K it was usually a pretty cool place that allowed productive and interesting disagreement and various POV. then once the userbase grew the mods would always become ban happy for anyone they didn’t like who didn’t agree with their agenda/beliefs, and would hypocritically start lecturing users on tolerance and diversity and non abusive behaviour, while banning people over personal disagreements they had with users. i remember i once got banned in cycling subreddit because is said I thought Doritos were gross and the mod basically told me to go f myself for not like the same snack food as he did. lol

Nothing. I sleep well and I rarely dream.

there isn’t any lemmy equitte

there is equitte for each instance. that’s up to the people who admin the instance and usually boils down to political beliefs.

i don’t have any memes on my phone. never have, never will.

yes. it also prevents attacks. it’s basically a necessity these days.

if you host your own stuff and get any traffic you’ll get DDoSed by bots. cloudflare prevents this by detaching your DNS from your IP and distributing requests.

just port forwarding on your home network these days… and you’ll get dozens of attacks per hour.

the internet is not ‘nice’ anymore. services like cloudflare are a necessity for any active services beyond personal use. long gone are the days you could host a web server from your bedroom.

it’s true in experience. I’m a single guy. I date around. Most women I meet think gardening makes me queer. It is not considered a desirable hobby for a man. And many men who don’t garden, also think it’s queer/feminine.

People who do garden, don’t see it that way, of course. But every garden group I’ve ever met up with was 70% women, and most of the men were not ‘manly’. I myself am not a manly guy.

yes. everything is gendered for gender warriors.

i’m cishet and i have a garden and most women i date think it means I’m secretly gay. the cat doesn’t help.

gardening is considered feminine, or for old people. not for younger men who are supposed to be virile and dominant. they should be hunting.

it’s oblivion in space.

think about how miserable their lives must be if their parents are so paranoid they think trick or treating in their affluent neighborhoods is ‘dangerous’.

i live in one of the safest cities in the country. i notice that new residents who move here… put up ring cameras all over their properties. if you ask them why they will tell you it’s because there is so much crime here and they have to protect themselves from home invasion etc. what they really do is just post racist/paranoid screencaps anytime a black person walks by their house to their facebook community pages.

it’s insane how delusional people are and how they are using tech to dig their delusions deeper and deeper.

You can’t research socialism on a large scale because it has never existed.

You’re arguing from an ideal. I’m arguing from reality. I look at evidence, not theoretical constructs of how the world ‘should’ be. ’

PRC is not socialist dude. You are straight up delusional. It’s autocratic capitalism. They pivoted to that after Maoism was a titanic failure. But hey, don’t like history or facts get in the way of the fantasy in your head that you got from reading a few books?

pretty much. and most people think you’re an asshole if you disagree with them.

can’t tell you how many times I get told I am an asshole for not being into professional sports. for example. i think it’s pretty harmless, but for pro-sports fanatics I’m a heathen to their religion.

Yeah that’s accurate. I accept lower social status for my goodness.

Turns out other people don’t admire that. They admire assholes and they tend to think anyone who isn’t seeking wealth, power, and status is mentally deficient. At least in USA. I have been told many times that me not rent-seeking and exploiting others is ‘being lazy’.

what kind of education?

plenty of education is about instilling ignorance and hate in people. plenty of ‘educated’ people are the ones creating the vitriol because it’s financailly beneficial for them. Most of the right wing nutjobs are just doing it for money.

I think deep down most people are assholes. But it’s just hard-wiring.

Not being a decent person is hard. And assholes won’t think you’re decent unless you are also an asshole with them.

Socialism only works in small coherent groups. It doesn’t scale. You can run a socialist business, or group, or town. Sure. People are generally pro socialism when it’s amongst their own tribe.

You can’t run a socialist multi-ethnic society for millions of people. Human tribalism.

All the socialists I know seem to have a hate hard on for working class people. At least where I live.

Don’t forget, supporting the status quo and doing the popular thing, regardless of how hypocritical it is.

What gets me is how openly hypocritical people are becoming. There is no more shame. I notice that many of the ‘principled’ people think their principles do not apply to them. Only other people that they don’t like.

I’m not even talking politics. Often in personal relationships people will tell you how lying is awful, but then lie themselves and justify it by claiming that everyone else is doing it or that they had to do it because they are ‘disadvantaged’.

And i’d fundamentally disagree. plenty of curious people use their curiosity to perpetuate and develop new forms of bigotry.

history of science is loaded with people using new concepts to perpetuate and reinforce racism, sexism, etc. and that is still very much done today.

it’s a naive to assume curiosity is a cure for ignorance. some of the most curious and smart people I know are also the most racist/sexist and pridefully ignorant. some of the dumbest/least curious people I know the least bigoted.

if anything, i’d say the biggest correlation is about whether or not the person believes in a sense of a social pecking order/competition. those who deeply believe in it are furiously trying to crab bucket their way up it by pushing others below them. those who don’t… just don’t care about people’s perceived status no matter it’s basis.

knowledge is a cure for nothing. it’s just knowledge. and knowledge changes over time.