wanted reddit from 10+ years ago when it was a smaller more chill site more interesting in being nerdy and curious than being political grandstanding. used to be such a fun place to kill time and learn cool shit and read interesting stories. it was glorious until 2016 and started going downhill rapidly, IME. I was first banned from reddit in 2020 for ‘inciting violence’ by talking about my cat hunting rabbits. thought it was insane, and a few months later I was randomly unbanned. OK. Stopped using it in '22 entirely as I constantly being reported for random comments as ‘racism, violence, hate speech’ when I was often pointing out those behavior and attitudes.

fediverse cool at first but now it’s rapidly growing into another reddit with a ton of people here who are just to be crappy and spam their weird agendas and go around endlessly self promoting themselves and hating on anyone who isn’t like them. it’s increasingly just a site for people to dump their insanity and delusions and seek validation for doing so. I have blocked so many people in the past few months it’s insane, my block list is 100s now, and in '25 it was maybe a dozen.

That said there are still some pretty good thoughtful threads on here about various issues, usually for the first few hours they are up, but once they get some traction the crazies come out to harass anyone remotely thoughtful and call them names. I’ve seen some wonderful empathetic and compassionate discussions get completely derailed by shitheads, who also mod-report these thoughtful and interesting things as ‘hate speech’ because it doesn’t align with their simplified black or white view of the issue, and their missions is simple to shut down any discussion that isn’t a catchphrase or other bumper sticker takes by calling it hate speech, just like my comment about my cat killing rabbits was ‘animal abuse’.

dumb people ruin everything because they basically throw a tantrum when they can’t fit the square object into the round hole and declare that the square space must therefore be a hateful bigot, because all the world must be round holes and only things that fit through them should be allowed to exist.

I like being gay on the inside. It’s really the only place I’m allowed to be gay.

because it’s easy to moralize and grandstand about strangers

How stunning and brave of you to stand up for what is right.

Clearly those in the files will feel the hot wrath of justice by not being able to ever go over to your place for Hot Pockets and Capri Suns.

because it’s rage bait

If my ‘struggling’ you mean ‘i want to be wealthy but i constantly overspend’.

nobody doing social media posts is in poverty.

Welcome to being an adult. It only gets worse as you get older. Other adults do not want to hear about your feelings.

You realize it’s a futile cause and learn to live without it. Or you hire a professional therapist to listen to you.

If you are physically attractive you can also try dating. Lots of people on on first dates and use the date as a therapy session.

The Cloud sucks.

a lady in the grocery store once told me i look really nice today.

medical tech.

nobody wants AI fucking up their patient file.

yes.

feelings are not love. the yare feelings. love is the actions you take.

it doesn’t exist. but i work for a company that does real work. it doesn’t bullshit.

I’ve been independent since 18. I don’t maintain my independence… it’s never been an option for me to be a dependent on anyone else.

my experience of lemmy is groups 1 and 2 just attack and insult group 3.

at best they try to ‘educate’ you about how stupid you are for not being a communist or anarchist.

groups 1 and 2 don’t seem to have much tolerance for anyone who doesn’t believe in their ideologically rigid world view

80% of the comments i get screaming at me how i am a fascist pig are .ml users.

the major benefit is there isn’t enough of a dipshit brigade to drown out the genuine smart people who are saying insightful things… yet

but i’ve been here over a year, and the dipshit brigade is growing rapidly. soon enough they will become mods and start banning anyone who doesn’t agree with their dipshit agenda. but at least their power will be limited to only banning you on their particular instance.

reddit used to have lots of cool diverse voices, and that all ended once it became popular enough that your parents new what it was and corporations were desperate to use it to shrill and advertise.

personally i felt like anytime i sub went over 100,000 subscribers it rapidly went to shit. if it was under 100K it was usually a pretty cool place that allowed productive and interesting disagreement and various POV. then once the userbase grew the mods would always become ban happy for anyone they didn’t like who didn’t agree with their agenda/beliefs, and would hypocritically start lecturing users on tolerance and diversity and non abusive behaviour, while banning people over personal disagreements they had with users. i remember i once got banned in cycling subreddit because is said I thought Doritos were gross and the mod basically told me to go f myself for not like the same snack food as he did. lol

Nothing. I sleep well and I rarely dream.

there isn’t any lemmy equitte

there is equitte for each instance. that’s up to the people who admin the instance and usually boils down to political beliefs.

i don’t have any memes on my phone. never have, never will.

yes. it also prevents attacks. it’s basically a necessity these days.

if you host your own stuff and get any traffic you’ll get DDoSed by bots. cloudflare prevents this by detaching your DNS from your IP and distributing requests.

just port forwarding on your home network these days… and you’ll get dozens of attacks per hour.

the internet is not ‘nice’ anymore. services like cloudflare are a necessity for any active services beyond personal use. long gone are the days you could host a web server from your bedroom.