These apps seem to encourage ‘transactional’ behaviour.
Less so in my experience irl.
Best formula someone gave me was: get involved with something you enjoy, a club or activity.
Meet people through this.
Get to know them with the pressure off (as you’re enjoying whatever the activity is).
Meet people through activities to form proper relationships, was his take.
I’d love to know if this has actually worked for someone.
These apps seem to encourage ‘transactional’ behaviour. Less so in my experience irl. Best formula someone gave me was: get involved with something you enjoy, a club or activity. Meet people through this. Get to know them with the pressure off (as you’re enjoying whatever the activity is). Meet people through activities to form proper relationships, was his take.
I’d love to know if this has actually worked for someone.
Never worked for me. Most things I’m interested in have few women doing it, and I’m very shy anyway.
And, if there are any, they’ve probably heard it all from all the other horny dudes with limited self restraint.
On the other hand, the dude above you got his wife hooked on Babylon 5. In retrospect, not joining the scifi club was probably a mistake.