I’m the wife and I’m like you. I will stand in the dark and wait for my eyes to adjust rather than turn on a light.

We have fairy lights and red LED string lights for the high traffic areas to dissuade hubby from flipping on the overhead.

Low light motion sensor nightlights for a couple spots so that we don’t step on a cat on the way to the bathroom.

The kitchen lights are dimmable, so we can go bright when needed to cook, and dim if just searching for a snack.

I love it. He has given in and adjusted. I find it calm and cozy.